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67% of women who expressed a preference for "well hung men" who participated in a 1999 on-line survey that incorporated a standardized test for sexual addiction during 1999 had W-SAST scores indicating possible sexual addiction.
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Sexual Addiction Among Women Seeking

“Well-Endowed” Male Partners: Results of a

Survey

By

Dr. Anthony G. Payne

We are by nature “hard wired” to seek out novelty as well as activities, practices

and indulgences and that give us pleasure. Sometimes the two go hand-in-hand, while at

others times they operate separately. Whether operating separately or in concert they appear

to ring all kinds of bells in the brain’s reward centers. This tends to reinforce our taking or

doing whatever it is that brought this about.

The pursuit of novelty or pleasure or both takes on many faces, some beneficial and

others that may be beneficial initially but which exact a toll in the short or long term. For

example, learning, exploration and discovery using a telescope, microscope or an

archeologist’s pick is satisfying at many levels and brings internal and “real world” rewards

(recognition, etc.) that encourage a ‘repeat performance’. For some, a glass of wine with

meals relaxes and pays off in terms of reducing certain heart disease risk factors. So long as

this pursuit does not edge out or totally eclipse important considerations such as spousal

needs, family, et cetera, it has merit. If it becomes the major or sole focus of one’s attention

and energies, then it can have negative consequences.

This basic principle applies to such “personal indulgence” pursuits as wagering for

gain (gambling), drinking, and sexual gratification as well. If the positives outweigh the

negatives for self and all concerned, the law is not broken, and no one is harmed or forced

to compromise their own standards of personal integrity or morality, then all is well at least

at a very fundamental level. But when these pleasurable indulgences visit harm or violation

on self or others, directly or collaterally, then trouble is in the offing.

Of course, pleasure-evoking things as gambling and booze can become addictive.

Statistics abound on the nature and scope of alcoholism and gambling addiction. But what

about sexual addiction? How prevalent is it?

According to Dr. Eli Coleman, director of the human sexuality program at

University of Minnesota Medical School in Minneapolis, approximately 3% to 5% of U.S.

adults are sexually addicted. He is quick to point out that these people are not pedophiles or

otherwise deviant in their sexual practices, but (rather) are “straight or gay people with

intense, recurrent sexual fantasies who are uncontrollably driven to compulsive sexual acts

that cause them trouble.” Coleman adds that “true sex addiction can't be chalked up to drug

or alcohol abuse or any medical condition”
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2003-08-

10-addiction-usat_x.htm

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The U.S. Census Bureau total population estimate for 2003 is 290,809,777 people.

74% are folks over age 18. If we take the lower estimate given by Dr. Coleman (3%), this

translates to about 6.5 million people who are sexually addicted!

The Hallmarks of Sexual Addiction

According to sexual addiction expert Dr. Patrick Carnes, there are ten possible warning

signs that are manifest in persons for whom sex is “the tail wagging the dog”:

1. Feeling that your behavior is out of control.

2. Being aware that there may be severe consequences if you continue.

3. Feeling unable to stop your behavior, despite knowing the consequences.

4. Persistently pursuing destructive and/or high-risk activities.

5. Wanting to stop or control what you're doing and taking active steps to limit your activities.

6. Using sexual fantasies as a way of coping with difficult feelings or situations.

7. Needing more and more sexual activity in order to experience the same high.

8. Suffering from intense mood swings around sexual activity.

9. Spending an increasing amount of time planning, engaging in or regretting and recovering

from sexual activities.

10. Neglecting important social, occupational or recreational activities in favor of sexual

behavior.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/probs_sexaddiction.shtml

“Sexual addiction has many different forms: compulsive masturbation, sex with

prostitutes, anonymous sex with multiple partners, multiple affairs outside a committed

relationship, habitual exhibitionism, habitual voyeurism, inappropriate sexual touching,

repeated sexual abuse of children, and episodes of rape (Book, 1997). Of all forms of

sexual addiction, none is more harmful to both the addict and the victim than childhood

sexual abuse.

The beginnings of sexual addiction are usually rooted up in adolescence or

childhood. It is found that 60% of sexual addicts were abused by someone in their

childhood (Book, 1997,pp 52). The child may have grown up in a hostile, chaotic or

neglectful home, or the family may have been very normal but the child grows up

emotionally starved for love because affection is rarely expressed. Gradually sex becomes

a replacement act to turn to in times of any kind of need, from escaping boredom, to feeling

anxious, to being able to sleep at night. The child may repeatedly turn to masturbation for

escape….“

From
Sexual Addiction by Roschbeth Ewald

AllPsych Journal

http://allpsych.com/journal/sexaddiction.html
________________________________________

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Dr. Carnes developed this specific test to gauge sexual addiction in women called the “Woman’s

Sexual Addiction Screening Test” (W-SAST):

1. Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent?

2. Do you regularly purchase romance novels or sexually explicit magazines?

3. Have you stayed in romantic relationships after they become emotionally or physically

abusive?

4. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts or romantic daydreams?

5. Do you feel that your sexual behavior is not normal?

6. Does your spouse or significant other(s) ever worry or complain about your sexual

behavior?

7. Do you have trouble stopping your sexual behavior when you know it is inappropriate?

8. Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior?

9. Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you and your family?

10. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like?

11. Have you ever worried about people finding out about your sexual activities?

12. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?

13. Have you ever participated in sexual activity in exchange for money or gifts?

14. Do you have times when you act out sexually followed by periods of celibacy (no sex at

all)?

15. Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual activity and failed?

16. Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others?

17. Do you find yourself having multiple romantic relationships at the same time?

18. Have you ever felt degraded by your sexual behavior?

19. Has sex or romantic fantasies been a way for you to escape your problems?

20. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?

21. Do you regularly engage in sadomasochistic behavior?

22. Has your sexual activity interfered with your family life?

23. Have you been sexual with minors?

24. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire or fantasies of romance?

25. Do you ever think your sexual desire is stronger than you are?

According to Dr. Carnes and associate Sharon O’Hara, W-SAST is “designed to assist

in the assessment of sexually compulsive behavior. This test is a screening instrument

meant to be used in the context of a therapeutic interview. By itself, the W-SAST does not

provide a diagnosis.” The scoring is as follows:


3 – 4 "yes" responses may indicate an area of concern and should be openly

discussed with a friend or family member.


5 - 7 positive answers suggests a need for further assessment of the problem

behavior, including the consideration of attending a 12-Step support program such

as Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous.

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More than 7 "yes" responses indicate a serious struggle with addictive sexual issues

with potentially self- abusive and/or dangerous consequences. Should seriously

consider professional treatment.

Dr. Carnes also developed a screening test for sexual addiction in men that can be accessed

by clicking this link
: http://www.sexualrecovery.com/resources/selftests/gsast.php

Narrowing the Focus

Dr. Carnes’ various online tests to screen for sexual addiction first appeared during

1997 (AOL, Prodigy and Compuserve came online around 1995). During 1998 I became an

AOL
Community Leader (AltMed Board) and in this capacity spent a great deal of time

researching and writing articles for posting on various popular medical, psychological and

sexual issues. During the process of searching the web for material germane to an article I

was writing on penile augmentation (surgical and non-surgical methods), I noticed many

message board posts made by women seeking “well endowed” male partners. The content

of some of these suggested that many were sex addicts. But were they really? And if so,

was their addiction spurred on by pleasurable experiences with “hung men” or the

anticipation of pleasure this might bring – or both? One way to find out, I reasoned, was to

conduct a survey. While what I had in mind was not necessarily scientifically rigorous, I

might at least garner some input and data that would indicate whether there was something

afoot that could be more methodically validated down the line.

In designing a survey form for “Women who prefer well-endowed men”, I

incorporated all the questions found on the W-SAST. After I was satisfied that it was

comprehensive and telling enough, I set up a special website on AOL featuring the survey

and then began advertising it on message boards and such where women were posting

information, questions, and such concerning sexuality and relationship issues (The survey

form in its entirety can be found at the end of this article).

Over the course of a one-year period (01/1998-01/1999) I received completed forms

from 42 women. Most were young to middle-aged (87%), heterosexual (85%), had a high

school education or better, were single or otherwise unattached (71%), were politically

conservative to moderate, and middle class (81%). Only 10% used tobacco and while 67%

(28 women) reported that they consumed alcoholic beverages, only 2 women described

their drinking as “heavy” (7%). And only one woman reported using an illicit drug

(Marijuana).

The vast majority defined a “well-endowed man” as possessing a penis 8”

long or longer and “thick” (29% favored a penile circumference or girth of 5-6 inches; 52%

6-7 inches; and 19% 7 plus inches). Girth, in fact, was frequently mentioned as being a very

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important characteristic. This dovetails with the findings of a survey study involving the

penis size preferences of female college published in
BMC Women’s Health during 2001

http://www.biomedcentral.com/1472-6874/1/1
.

During January 1999 I carried out an analysis of the survey forms that revealed that

28 of the women (67%) had W-SAST scores indicating possible sexual addiction [And of

this group, 6 (14%) indicated they had been sexually abused as children or teenagers.

However, these 6 plus 22 others (28 = 67%) indicated they had endured some manner of

emotional abuse]. Sixteen had had prior experience with a well-endowed male partner, and

twelve had not. Of the fourteen women who did not score as sexually addicted, ten had had

relations with a well-endowed man and four had not.

During the course of writing up my survey findings (February 1999), I was offered

a unique opportunity to teach at a university outside Tokyo, Japan that required leaving the

US fairly quickly. Faced with a great deal of packing and organizing, I sat the survey

project aside and made plans to resume work on it at my earliest opportunity. Earliest, in

this case wound up being more than four years down the road.

Fast Forward – 2004

During February 2003 I returned to the USA, though it would be another year

before the survey project was at long last dug out of mothballs and revived. One of the

things that sent me shifting through boxes to retrieve the survey-related documentation had

to do with spam: specifically, the literal flood of unsolicited e-mails containing subject line

exhortations to “go big”, “enlarge your penis” and such. It appeared that being well

endowed was an increasingly hot issue. But what was behind this?

Quite obviously male insecurities over penis size were being exploited by a whole

host of people looking to capitalize on this. But I had to wonder: Was male psychology

alone informing this flurry of commercial come-ons, or were there actually lots of women

“out there” posting ads or messages soliciting dates or other kinds of relationships with

well-endowed men? A systematic search using several of the best search engines turned up

a multitude of ads and postings by women who were on a quest to find a well-hung man or

men. No doubt many, many men were reading these and finding themselves both titillated

and intimidated by their content!

The content of many of these ads and postings gleamed from the Internet seem to

suggest that a substantial number of women desiring well-endowed male partners were

either sexually addicted or addiction-prone. Perhaps if I could locate a large enough cache

of detailed ads from women who were looking for well-hung men, these might furnish

enough information to either buttress or refute what was revealed in the 1998-9 survey. It

didn’t take long to find what was needed:
The Big Date website

During August 2004 I paid a very modest one-time fee to gain temporary access to

Big Date, reputedly the only Internet introductions service that caters to people looking

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specifically to connect with well-endowed partners. What specifically attracted me to this

website was the fact its ad database section for “str8 women” (heterosexual) looking for

well-endowed “str-8 men” contains over 1000 ads. This is what I culled from BD (Used

with permission):

The majority of ads posted were made by white (68%), young to middle aged

women (76 % are between age 30 and 49). More than half (57%) are married or otherwise

attached. Most (77%) are seeking men with penises that range from 8”-10” in length, while

19% are looking for men with 10+” organs. In terms of girth preferences, 85% state that

they prefer prospective partner(s) who are “thick” while 16% are looking for men who are

“extra thick”. Generally speaking “thick” is employed most often to describe penile

circumferences that range from six to seven inches or so. Anything about 8” looks to

qualify as “extra thick” judging from what can be deduced from the ad text.

Since none of the women advertising on BD were tested by me using either my

original survey form or the W-SAST alone, there is no way to ascertain how prevalent

sexual addiction is among this population. Even so, the thrust of the majority of ads speaks

volumes concerning the mindset of what appears to be a large segment of these women

(Samples follow immediately below).

Legend

SWF – single white female

MWF- married white female

WaF – white attached female

SaF – Single attached female

SBF – single black female

MBF – married black female

SAF – single Asian female

MAF – married Asian female

SHF – single Hispanic female

HF – Hispanic female

SOF – single other race female

These ads have been slightly edited for conciseness, clarity and grammatical form, as well as to disguise the

advertiser’s location.

Women who have been with a well-endowed man or men

Looking for someone to help me scratch an itch. I am very oral and vocal, but not very

verbal. But I love to be talked to while being f****d hard by a big c**k. SHF, 34

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Only had one previous experience with a REALLY big c**k. Difficult to find again - seems

there aren't that many men with big ones. Please contact me if you do have a large one so

we can exchange photos and fantasies and possibly meet if everything seems right. WaF, 30

Hello, I am seeking a very well hung man at least 10 inches long, but preferably over 10

inches who is black, mixed with black, Indian or Hispanic. I can’t begin to describe the

pleasure a big d**k gives me and I miss it. I am also interested in group sex so if you are a

couple M/F or 2 males that is ok I would like to hear from you too if your packing a big one.

I am of mixed race but look Hispanic or Puerto Rican. SOF, 32

I am a very cute and curvaceous blonde. I enjoy giving oral to well hung men and love the

feel of a big c**k inside me. Men must be at least 9 inches long and thick. Race doesn’t

really matter. I’m looking for nice, clean cut man with average to better looks who is in

good shape. I am very clean and love to please a man. I promise that you won’t be sorry for

talking to me. SWF, 34

WF, 35, slim and considered attractive, with blonde hair and a toned, tanned body. I have a

very high sex-drive, enjoy most everything sexually and am very energetic and vocal in bed.

I am looking for a man at least 8 inches in length but who is also very well endowed in

terms of girth. I would prefer a guy who is at least 6 inches around as I find extra thickness

the only way I can experience orgasm during intercourse. Guys who have length plus

thickness or who are extremely thick please reply. Your age, race and marital status is of no

concern as I am only looking to a casual/semi-regular thing at present. Of course if sparks

fly then who knows. SWF, 36

I am a single woman who absolutely loves the feel of a well-endowed man. I have a great

sense of humor and a tremendous sex drive. If interested, email me. SWF, 41

I will come directly to the point: I am a slim black woman seeking a white male with a very,

very LARGE d***k. I am looking for a nonsmoker, tall, D/D free, professional, well

dressed, FIT and very oral straight male. I need someone 8+ inches and larger for an

intimate encounter. I have been with men up to 11 inches and enjoyed it very much. The

bigger, the better for me. If you live in or/are visiting the area please contact me. Please be

very ORAL and very uninhibited. If you are white male with 8 thick inches or more and

would love to share it with a black female please contact me. FYI...I love very large

c***ks!!!!! SBF, 43

I am a very sensual, sexual 51 year old woman seeking very well endowed men. One of my

previous lovers was 10+ inches and I would love to have that size inside me again. I am

full-figured, but agile, playful and adventurous. SWF, 53

Genuine "size queen". Petite, brunette, good looking 27yo professionally employed single

white female, looking for a genuine "donkey" sized male with a view to establishing a

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relationship. Have experienced "big" men before -- thickness and length are thus very

important to me. I'm also a lover of big b*lls, and what they produce.

So if you're genuine, down to earth, and hung like a donkey, please don't be shy. SWF, 27

I'm a horny Texas Honey who is looking for a huge c**k to stretch me open. Must be at

least 9" and very fat, because I want to feel it for a few days after. Serious only, must live in

Texas. I am attractive and very sexually oriented, love to give and receive oral sex and

enjoy long periods of nothing but pure unadulterated fun sex. Hope to hear from you soon.

SWF, 29

Women whose status with regard to experience with a well hung man or men

is difficult to determine with certainty

I'm looking to meet guys hung 9" or better and THICK! I live in Nevada and enjoy meeting

men here on vacation, for conventions, etc. SWF, 45

I am looking to experience the wild side of sex. I especially want to know what it is like to

feel the stretch. Any good guys who either want to fulfill my fantasy or let me fulfill theirs,

please contact me. I have plenty of fantasies to share. MWF, 42

I am a black female who hasn't been fulfilled in a long time. I need a man with 8 inches or

more to satisfy my needs and desire. I have size 38E breasts and need someone to suck my

nipples and fondle them well. I also want to please you in any way possible. SBF, 35

I am a sexy single black female looking for all big long, well endowed thick c**k men, age

and race is unimportant. I am DDF and CLEAN and have a very strong sex drive, cannot

get enough sex, so email me and I will respond back with a contact number and we can

meet for lots of hot sex. And please do send a jpg format picture to me when you email me.

No pain, only pleasure. Couples with well-endowed men email me with a jpg picture and a

contact number and I will call you and we can meet. Men with 9 inches or 9+ or 10 inches

or 11inches, or 12 inches or 13 inches, or 14 inches please do email me ASAP. I don’t do

one-night stands, looking forward to getting together with you very soon. SBF, 46

I am searching for a man that has the right equipment to satisfy a lady with a voracious

sexual appetite. I cannot seem to find someone large enough to really satisfy me. Are you

that man? SWF, 40

Hello, I am tried of the "little" men that I have slept with in the past! I am seeking a white

man 30-50 who is extremely well hung (10+) and thick. I need to feel what it is like to feel

full. I am for real and am not playing games. Serious inquires only. Picture proof. Your

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time is important as is mine. Hope to here from some "real" men. You won't regret it! SWF,

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Women who have not experienced a well-hung man or men

I am a fit black woman living in London. My greatest fantasy is to have a hung man fill me

up, slowly and pain free: to give me the ultimate orgasm, as I have never experienced it. So

if you are willing to help me out, feel free to email me. SBF, 36

Looking for hung men to satisfy a need I have. Have never been with a well-hung guy.

Looking for 9+ inches. Inexperienced but very horny! SWF, 42

Sexy redhead looking for hung man/men or couples with a hung man. Must be well

endowed, as I have had a lot of experience with smaller men and am not interested in a

“repeat”. Hope to hear from you soon. SWF, 26

I am a black married woman looking to experience a really well hung man. My husband of

one year is of average size, and I have always been curious about big d**ks. It is my

fantasy to have sex with a well hung man and then tell my husband all about it. He might

even want to join in! MBF, 27

I am looking for well-endowed men to fill me up and thus satisfy my fantasy. I have been

dreaming of a man with a 9+ in. c**k just putting the hammer down on me to the point

whereby I can hardly move afterwards. If you think you’re that guy then we definitely have

to see if you can perform like the men in my dreams -- hopefully even better. SWF, 23

I am a married Indian lady looking to make my fantasy come true, insofar as I would like to

be fully penetrated by either a white or black male with a very large penis. Is there a nice

and genuine male like this out there? MAF, 42

I am very physically fit and have been told that I am quite attractive. I have a very high sex

drive and nurse a fantasy of being with a huge man! I have never had a huge man before,

but I have seen pictures and it drives me wild. I think there is nothing more erotic or

powerful looking than a very hung man. If you are 9"+ and very thick, please send a photo

and I will send you pictures of myself. Very clean, D&D free and discretion is required.

SWF, 43

I am a single female looking for a well-endowed guy. I have never had a large guy before

and would like to try you. SWF, 32

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I would like to experience being with a man who is “blessed” down there. I have never

been with anyone over 5 to 6 inches long. After having had 2 children I have come to

realize that size does matter! I am looking for an attractive, clean man, down to earth and

easy going. Someone who understands this situation! I am not into pain or anything funky.

I am a professional, sincere, down to earth woman, attractive with a cute smile to boot. I am

caring, artistic and passionate. HF, 39

I am a petite mature woman who has always wanted a well-hung man to pleasure me the

way I know only a man of large dimensions could. I have been married for a long time to a

man who is, if anything, barely average and I long for complete fulfillment; to be

completely full. Not looking for long-term relationship or any type of strings, only a friend

and long time lover. MWF, 46

Give me the thrill of a lifetime! I am a 47 year old MWF who feels its time to experience a

big c**k. I’m a little on the heavy side with nice size breasts for you to play with, and am

looking for a man with no facial hair, a non smoker who packs 8 inches or better. He must

enjoy kissing and taking his time with me so I can enjoy the thrill of taking so much c**k.

If you do not measure up, please do not reply. MWF, 48

Ok, I am here because I want one thing! I am a MWF, 30, attractive, brunette, great body,

somewhat shy and inexperienced with sex. I want to know if bigger is really better, but I

don't know how/where to find the right guy. I'm not looking for kinky sex, just oral and

normal sex. MWF, 31

Hi, I am have been married over 30 years and have three grown children. My sex drive has

gotten stronger and my husband cannot satisfy me anymore. I am looking for a young (18

& up) well hung black man to satisfy my “dark craving.” Uncut would certainly be a

tremendous turn on for me. MWF, 54

I have never had a really huge man before and crave it so much! I adore huge d**ks,

hoping someone out there fits the bill. I am very clean and want the same from you. I love

to experiment and always give lots of attention to my partner including oral giving and

receiving. Love men of other races. Hope to hear from you soon. SBF, 41

Summing it up

Of the forty-two women who completed survey forms during 1998-9, two-thirds

scored high enough on the (embedded) W-SAST to qualify as sexually addicted. 57% of

these women reported having had prior sexual experience with a well-endowed man, while

43% stated they had not. Drug use and alcohol abuse is not a significant player in the lives

of women in either group (sexually addicted, non-addicted).

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In my 2004 review of all the BD ads posted by “str8” (heterosexual) women

looking for well hung men, most were adamant that their prospective partners be drug and

disease free, and either employ safe sex measures (condoms) or provide proof of diseasefree

status (This parallels in many respects the stance of the women who participated in the

1998-9 survey). And while no determination could be made concerning the percentage of

these women who are sexually addicted, at least half or more used language that suggests

the presence of a kind and degree of ‘obsession’ that is characteristic of sexually addicted

or addiction-prone people.

Human sexual behavior is intimately tied to rewards – as in pleasures realized or

anticipated. When the pursuit of sexual pleasure interferes with one’s job, family, sense of

contentment or such, addiction or addiction-prone tendencies is indicated. Sixty-six percent

(66%) of those who took part in the 1998-9 “Women Who Prefer Well-Endowed Men”

survey qualified as being sexually addicted according to their scores on the W-SAST

portion of the survey form. If this level of addiction proves to be true of women who utilize

dating and relationship forums for the express purpose of connecting with well-endowed

men, justification would exist for marshalling greater resources to help make these women

cognizant of the emotional, sexual and mental health issues involved and of their need to

avail themselves of testing and (if indicated) counseling.

Returning now to the estimate mentioned early on in this article that 3-5% of

American adults are sexually addicted: If the lower number --3% -- is accurate this

translates to 6.5 million people. If one-quarter to one-half of these is women we are talking

1.23 to 3.25 million mothers, daughters, sisters, grandmothers, aunts and so forth. That we

need to reach out to them is almost a given. And if what my 1998-9 survey indicates is even

partially true, a good place to begin may be services, message boards, and such where

women go in search of a “big date.”

Contact information:
Comments, questions and such concerning the content and issues

raised in this article should be e-mailed to Dr. Payne at
DrAGPayne@yahoo.com

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Analysis of 1998-1999 online “Women who prefer well-hung Men” survey responses

Age range
:

19-29: 5%

30-39: 52%

40-49: 35%

50+: 8%

Sexual orientation:

Heterosexual: 85%

Bisexual: 15%

Homosexual: 0%

Race:

White: 61%

Black: 17%

Hispanic: 10%

Asian: 5%

Other: 7%

Religious background:

Christian: Protestant: 43%

Catholic: 17%

Jewish: <1%

Muslim: <1%

Atheist/Agnostic: 2%

Other/none reported: 36.5%

Socioeconomic status:

Lower: 12%

Middle: 81%

Upper: 7%

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Education:

Did not graduate HS: 5%

HS graduate: 95%

Undergraduate degree: 25%

Graduate, professional

or higher degree: 8%

Political Persuasion:

Conservative: 19%

Moderate: 57%

Liberal: 23%

Ultraliberal: 1%

Body type:

Small (Petite): 14%

Average: 27%

Large/BBW: 52%

Athletic: 7%

Relationship status:

Single/unattached: 71%

Married/Attached: 29%

Tobacco, Alcohol, Drug use:

Use tobacco: 10%

Use alcohol: 67% (28 drinkers. 2 reported a heavy pattern of consumption)

Use illicit drugs: <1%

Location:

New England: 10%

Mid-Atlantic: 14%

South: 24%

Southwest: 12%

Midwest: 7%

West: 33%

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Penis Size range preference:

Length preference
:

7-8”: 17%

8-9”: 45%

9-10”: 24%

10+: 14%

Girth preference breakdown:

5-6”: 29%

6-7”: 52%

7+: 19%

Circumcision preference:

Prefer circumcised: 86%

Prefer uncircumcised: 7%

Didn’t specify: 6%

Sexual history/activity data:

%age reporting having/having had a STD: 12% (Herpes, chlamydia)

%age reporting having/having had a psychiatric illness or condition: 3%

%age reporting having been sexually abused as a child or teenager: 14%

Average # of sex partners (total – lifetime to-date): 4

Sexual Addiction Status Analysis
:

Sexually addicted
: 28 of 42 women – 67%

S.A. having experienced sex with a well-endowed partner: 57% (of the 28)

S.A. having no experience with a well-endowed partner: 43% (of the 28)

Not sexually addicted:
14 of 42 women – 33%

Not S.A. having experienced sex with a well-endowed partner: 71% (of the 14)

Not S.A. having no experience with a well-endowed partner: 29% (of the 14)

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Analysis of Ads posted by “straight 8 (heterosexual) women” seeking “straight 8

(heterosexual)” well-endowed male partners on a major online internet dating service

for those seeking well-endowed partners --- August 2004

Age range
:

19-29: 19%

30-39: 48%

40-49: 28%

50+: 5%

Race:

White: 68%

Black: 16%

Hispanic: 8%

Asian: 2%

Other: 6%

Body type:

Small (Petite): 25%

Average: 29%

Large/BBW: 30%

Athletic: 16%

Relationship status:

Single/unattached: 57%

Married/Attached: 43%

Location:

New England: 5%

Mid-Atlantic: 16%

South: 28%

Southwest: 9%

Midwest: 20%

West: 22%

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Penis Size range preference:

Length preference
:

7-8”: 4%

8-9”: 36%

9-10”: 41%

10+: 19%

Girth preference breakdown:

“Thick”: 85%

“Extra Thick”: 16%

_________________________________________________________________________

Women's Sexual Background & Preferences

Survey

Sex Questionnaire

(Designed for Women who prefer "well endowed" men)

Questionnaire developed by:

Dr. Anthony G. Payne

Thanks for linking up to this website. Your participation in this study

consists of completing the questionnaire (below). Your responses will help

clarify certain aspects of female sexual preference (Including penis size).

Feel free to add comments, anecdotes, etc., to any question. And do

employ the terms and language you are most accustomed to using (Don't

worry about trying to tender a scholarly work or about grammar, syntax or

spelling).

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Note: This survey form is long and will require some effort on your part to

complete. Please do not let this deter you from completing this survey. The

answers you alone are in a position to provide will help me in creating a

psychosexual profile of women who prefer "well endowed" men.

General Background - all areas

1. Please indicate your age:

2. Body Build (Petite, thin, average, large, very large):

3. Race/ethnic origins:

4. Your family: How big? Number of sisters:

brothers:

5. Parents still alive? If so, still married to each other?

6. Reared in what area of the country?

7. Religious background: Christian (Protestant, Catholic, Orthodox, other),

Jewish (Orthodox, Reform, Liberal, etc), Muslim, Atheist, Agnostic, Other

(Provide details)

8. Did you parents openly display affection towards each other and

you/your siblings? Or discourage same?

9. Politically, are you an ultraconservative, conservative, moderate, liberal

or ultraliberal?

10. Morally, are you more aligned with (say) a fundamentalist religious

mindset - or something more liberal? Describe your moral

outlook/philosophy.

11. Married, single, divorced or separated?

12. If married, for how long?

13. Age at which first period occurred:

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14. Use birth control pills?

15. If perimenopausal, menopausal or post-menopausal - indicate which:

16. Using any hormone replacements? (Thyroid, progesterone, estrogen,

DHEA, pregnenolone, etc.)

17. Do you use tobacco? If yes, type and amount per day. (Example:

Smoke 10 cigarettes daily)

18. Do you drink alcoholic beverages? If so, indicate type and amount per

day on average.

19. Do you use any herb or supplement or drug reputed to boost or

otherwise alter the human sex drive?

20. What type of physical activities do you engage in regularly? (Example:

Bike twenty minutes every other day)

21. Have any physical handicaps/limitations?

22. Current Health status:

List any medications presently used (Prescription and over-the-counter)

List any illicit drugs you use (Illegal drugs):

23. Ever been treated for a sexually transmitted disease (STD)? If yes,

nature of the disease and resolution (Example: Herpes - contracted at age

sixteen - no flair ups in 10 years)

24. Highest educational level attained:

25. Your current occupation:

26. Number of children (Put 0 if none) + age(s) & sex. Indicate the number

living with you.

27. Religious tradition (if any):

28. Do you attend church, synagogue, mosque, etc? If so, how often?

29. Hobbies (If any):

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30. Socioeconomic status: Lower, upper lower, middle, upper middle, lower

upper, upper

31. What area of the country do you live in? (North, NW, South, SW, east,

etc.)

32. Do you live in an apartment, condo, penthouse or house (Specify)?

Rent or own?

Suburbs, inner city or rural area?

33. Are you now or have you ever been addicted to any drug, alcohol or

other substance(s)? If yes, please give details and treatment/outcome (If

any):

Specific information - Sexual/Psychological

1. Ever been diagnosed and/or treated for a serious psychological

condition? (Example: Depression, Bipolar illness, schizophrenia, parinoia,

etc.)

2. If yes, age at diagnosis - treatment(s) - outcome:

3. Describe your personality (Outgoing, shy, etc.)

4. Age of first sexual experience & nature (Example: Age 12 - intercourse

with boyfriend).

5. Sexual orientation (Exclusively heterosexual, bisexual, exclusively

homosexual)

6. Do you entertain sexual fantasies often? If yes, nature and frequency

(Example: Daydream of sex with _____________- twice daily)

7. Do you masturbate? If yes, setting and frequency (Example: With

partner & I in bed - twice weekly. And alone while fantasizing - three times

weekly)

8. Preferred form of sexual activity:

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Done to you:

That you like doing for your partner(s):

9. Do you watch hardcore videos?

10. Do you watch porno alone? With your partner only? Both?

11. If you watch porno tapes alone, do you masturbate while watching?

12. What role (if any) do sexual toys or aids play in your love life?

13. Were you sexually abused or molested as a child or teenager?

14. Was your father or mother emotionally distant or absent during your

childhood or teenage years? Did either or both parents cause you to feel

emotional deprived, tormented, abused or neglected? If yes, give a brief

description.

15. Do you regularly read romance novels or sexually explicit

magazines/tabloids?

16. What size male penis strikes you as being "well endowed" (length and

circumference)?

a. Which produces the greatest pleasure: A long penis? A penis with great

girth? A penis which is both long and of great girth?

b. Do you actually measure your male partners?

c. Keep a diary of the men, their size and/or skill in bed?

d. Photograph your mate's/men's penis(es)? Make casts or drawings of

them?

e. Videotape your sexual unions with well-endowed men? If yes, do you

regularly watch same? If yes, alone or with others? Do you masturbate

while watching these videos?

f. Do you have a mirror above or near your bed to facilitate "viewing the

action"? Like to do so?

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17. Do you prefer circumcised or uncircumcised? Doesn't matter? If you

have a preference - explain why you feel drawn to or excited by your choice.

18. What do feel led to your fascination or preference for well-hung men?

[Example: Sex with well-endowed men is more exciting than with average

men. Got turned on by seeing large men in porno movies at age fifteen.

Like the look of large penises - reminds me of________ (fill in the blank).

Etc.]

19. How many well-hung men have you been with (sexually)?

If you know: The largest in terms of size (length, circumference):

Current lover's size (length, circumference):

Your idea of the ideal size male penis (Length, circumference):

In what ways (if any) do larger males differ from less endowed in terms of

sensations, satisfaction, etc.?

20. How many sexual partners total (lifetime) - male and/or female

(Indicate which plus number. Example: 17 men, 4 women)

21. In what ways are well endowed men better than average or below

average endowed men? In what ways are they worse (if any)?

22. Do you practice safe sex with your partners? If not, why not?

(Examples: Don't care. Have him take STD test before we get together).

23. Are you readily & easily orgasmic? (Attain orgasm easily) If yes, do you

readily attain orgasm during all forms of sex? Only intercourse? Only oral

sex?

24. Are you multi-orgasmic?

25. Does S & M (sadomasochism) or B & D (Bondage & Discipline) play a

role in your sex life? If yes, describe nature & frequency (Example: Like to

be tied up and have cunnilingus performed on me twice a week on average)

26. Do you have a “super turn on”? (Get especially turned on by a specific

item of clothing or a body part or feature - to the point of needing this to

enjoy sex fully)

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27. Have you ever stayed in a relationship after it become abusive

(Physically or emotionally)?

28. Do you often find yourself consumed with sexual thoughts, fantasies or

romantic daydreams?

29. Do you feel that your sexual life/behavior on the whole is exactly

normal? If yes, explain.

30. Does your spouse [or significant other(s)] ever voice concerns/complain

about any of your sexual interests, behaviors or pursuits? If yes, explain.

31. Do you have trouble putting the brakes on sexual behavior even after

you realize it is inappropriate?

32. Have you ever had or currently have a sexual "hang up", obsession, or

behavior which has created or is creating problems for you and/or your

family? If yes, explain.

33. If you answer yes to the question above: Have you sought help for a

sexual "weakness" or behavior you did not care for? Has anyone been

emotionally hurt because of your sexual conduct or pursuits?

34. Have you ever been deeply concerned or worried that other people

might find out about your sexual pursuits or interests?

35. Have you ever participated in a sexual activity for money or material

rewards?

Are you now or have you ever been a compulsive shopper or gambler?

36. Do you prefer to engage solely in sex one-on-one - or with others?

(Threesome, orgy, gangbang). If you prefer more than one partner,

elaborate [Example: Prefer my male partner and two other women]. Why

more than just one partner?

37. Do you have times when you are intensely sexually active followed by

periods of complete sexual abstinence (celibacy)?

38. Have you made efforts to quit a particular sexual activity or pursuit

and failed?

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39. Do you hide certain sexual desires or behaviors from your partner(s)?

Others (friends, family)?

40. Do you sometimes/often indulge multiple romantic and/or sexual

relationships at the same time?

41. Have you ever felt uncomfortable with or degraded by your sexual

desires or conduct?

42. Are sex or romantic fantasies now or at any time been a way for you to

escape your problems? If yes, when and under what circumstances.

43. When you engage in sexual activity, do you feel let down or depressed

afterwards? (Specify which)

44. Has your sexual interests, activities or conduct interfered with your

personal or family life?

(Specify which and elaborate)

45. Have you had sexual contact with (a) minor(s)?

46. Do you feel controlled or otherwise compelled by your sexual desires

and/or romantic fantasies? (If yes, elaborate)

47. Do you ever feel that your sexual cravings or desires are

overwhelming?

48. Do you like to watch well endowed men masturbate? Engage in oral or

anal sex with other men and/or women?

49. If married, do you have an "open marriage"? Swing alone - together -

both?

50. If you are married and cheat on your spouse or partner, explain why

you think you do this. How often during the past year? Five years?

51. Did you engage in incestuous sexual relations as a child or teenager? If

yes, explain the nature and duration. (Example: Had sex with male 1st

cousin once a month on average between ages 12-16. Was mutually

enjoyable. Got caught - contact ended)

52. Ever been raped or "date raped"? (If yes, specify which and elaborate)

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53. Do you like to have sex in public or semi-public places? If yes, why?

54. Ever been arrested for a sexual offense? If yes, elaborate.

55. When you have sex, are you very vocal? How so? (Use dirty language,

moan, groan, scream out. etc.)

56. Do you like for your partner to use dirty language during foreplay?

Sex? Moan and groan during either or both?

57. Do you like to perform fellatio (oral sex) on your mate/men? If so, what

turns you on about this sexual practice? Do you swallow his semen - spit

it out - other? (Elaborate)

58. Do you enjoy seeing a man ejaculate? If yes, why?

59. Do you enjoy having your backside (anus) licked as part of sexual

activity? If yes, how often is this part of your sex life? Do you like to

perform this on your partner?

60. Do kinky sexual practices like "golden showers", i.e., being urinated on

or urinating on your partner(s) excite you and/or your partner? If yes,

what make this practice thrilling or sexually exciting?

61. How long - on average - do you like for foreplay to last? Intercourse?

62. On a scale of 1 to 10 - 1 being very low, 10 being intense - rate your

sex drive:

63. How many times (on average) per week do you have intercourse?

64. What is the most pleasurable sexual position for you? (Missionary, on

top, doggy style, etc.)

65. When your male partner(s) ejaculate inside you, can you feel it? (If yes,

describe the sensation)

66. How many orgasms per day (on average) does it take to keep you

sexually satisfied/content?

67. How important is sex (overall) to your personal happiness and/or well

being?

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68. Do you tend to prefer sexually explicit magazines and/or videos

featuring "well hung" men? If yes, favorite theme(s): Heterosexual, bisexual,

homosexual, mixed, orgies, gangbangs, etc.

69. Do you believe that one particular race or ethnic group is better in bed

than others? Has more well hung men than others? If you do, on what do

you base this belief or conviction?

70. Do you intentionally scrutinize clothed men's groin areas in an effort to

determine whether they are "well hung"?

Do you ever catch yourself doing this without thinking about it?

71. If you were given $12 million dollars - what would you do with it - and

the rest of your life?

72. Rate the following from 1 (unimportant) to 5 (very important) - in terms

of your mate/men:

Attractiveness

Pronounced sense of humor/Wit

General intelligence

Outgoing/pleasant personality

Sense of romance

Nice body frame or build

Having a large penis

Being generous with time

Being generous with money

Skilled at communicating

Having a good income

Having a professional occupation

Being well educated

Having and/or practicing a religious faith

Having a high sex drive

Having a great sexual capacity/responsiveness

Loving children

Agreeing with my viewpoints on most of the important issues & things in

life

73. Do you belong to a swingers club or clubs? If so, how many - and how

often do you utilize their services?

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74. Ever had interracial sex? If so, list the race/ethnicity of your partner(s)

and rate their "performance" (ability to satisfy you).

75. If you have a favorite, recurring sexual fantasy - briefly describe it.

76. Rate yourself as a lover - from 1 (not so great) to 10 (Unbelievably great

in bed).

77. Given a choice between a "well endowed" lover with a poor love making

technique - and an average (endowed) man who is skilled in lovemaking -

which would you prefer?

78. Where do you see your personal and sexual life five years down the

road? Ten?

Feel free to pass along comments, anecdotes, and any other material you

feel will help clarify your sexual background, desires, and preferences.

Your participation in this survey is greatly appreciated!

NOTE: Submission of this survey form constitutes express permission (for

Dr. Anthony G. Payne) to utilize it's content in the drafting and publication

of papers, books, etc. All liabilities or other interest in these works is

waived.

This survey form © 1998 by Dr. Anthony G. Payne. All rights reserved.

_______________________________________________________

Resources & Additional Reading

Evolution & Human Sexuality, Sexual Characteristics, etc.

Sexual selection and penis size in men
Sexual selection and genital evolution

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http://www.serpentfd.org/historyevolutionchapter3.html

... female choice in human evolution is evidenced by the size of the male penis...

penis size and testicle size are impacted by female choice in other species. There is

a close correlation between testicle size and penis size and promiscuous social

structure as seen in chimpanzees where males with larger testicles and penises

produce and distribute larger quantities of sperm creating an advantage over the

other males (Margulis & Sagan, 1991), If you are a male living in a hierarchically

organized social system, a gorilla harem for example, then copious amount of

sperm production or a long penis does not increase your chances of producing

progeny. Your ability to prevent other males from sexual contact with females, by

force or intimidation, positively influences your chances of reproductive success.

Gorillas retain a diminutive penis and testicle size..."

http://www.serpentfd.org/historyevolutionchapter3.html

“As any rational person would have expected, the largest organisms ever to exist on

earth would also have the largest endowments. Among land animals, African bull

elephants lead the pack with their 5 to 6 ft. extremities. Whale penises, called dorks

(yes, when called a dork in grade school you were actually being compared to a

whale schlong), are the largest in the world, the blue whale being the champ with

phalli approximately 10 ft. long and 1 ft. in diameter. Its smaller cousins, notably

the appropriately named humpback and sperm whale, have penises that measure 9

feet or so. Makes you wonder if this is what Melville had in mind when he chose

the title
Moby Dick..."

http://www.whitedisk.150m.com/Sexrecords/page1.htm

In nature, the top goal of any mammal is survival and procreation. And the female mammal

is not only responsible for being the vehicle by which the pregnancy and birth takes place

but she is also responsible for the selection of the male partner that will impregnate her.

The three biggest factors in this determination are: 1) Survival skills (strength, the ability to

win over the competition, etc.), 2) testicle size and 3) penis size.

Penis Size:

The closer the penis opening is to the cervix (the doorway to the "child-carrying" uterus),

the greater the chances that a sperm will survive the harsh female defense systems and

make it to the waiting egg. In the animal world, a larger penis size is seen as better in the

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female mammal's male selection process since it can penetrate deep into the vagina,

increasing the likelihood of a pregnancy.

So the strongest male with the biggest penis and the biggest balls was picked by the female

mammal to ensure survival and procreation. And so over time, the male mammals in a

particular region naturally began having bigger and bigger penis sizes. This is over

thousands of years where only the well-endowed males were picked and allowed to pass on

their "well-endowed" genetic code.

Penis size throughout human evolutionary history seemed to take on the same role as larger

antlers in deer or larger horns has in bulls. Females just saw the stronger men with big

penis sizes as more "equipped" to father and protect a family. But this is always in

relationship to the average vagina size of a particular region. In any particular region, you'll

find that the penis size and vagina size of the indigenous people begin to equal.

“The (Im)moral Animal A Quick & Dirty Guide to Evolutionary Psychology & the Nature

of Human Nature”
By Frank Miele :

http://www.skeptic.com/the_magazine/archives/vol04n01.html

Penis issues including size, enlargement

Spam plays on male insecurities about penis size:
http://msnbc.msn.com/id/3979636/

The Natural History of Penis Size Enlargement Methods (Commercial site but has some

interesting information posted):
http://www.penis-natural-enlargement.com/pehistory.htm

The Kinsey Institute
Many references on penis size

Durex Scientific
Site by the manufacturer of Durex condoms

The Penis Website
Comprehensive site on the penis and male sexuality

http://www.the-confident-penis.com/penis-size.html
Penis size (Commerical site)

Body Dysmorphic Disorder/The Adonis Complex

http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic3124.htm
Body Dysmorphic Disorder

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http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/p010353.html
- Body Dysmorphic Disorder in Males

http://facultyofpsychology.com/0684869101.html
-- The Adonis Complex

What is Sexual Addiction?

http://www.jenniferschneider.com/articles/recognize.html
“How to recognize the signs of

sexual addiction: Asking the right questions may uncover serious problems” by Jennifer P.

Schneider, MD, PhD Vol. 90/N0 6/Novmber 1, 1991/Postgraduate Medicine – Sexual

Addiction

http://psychcentral.com/library/sexaddict_intro.htm
“What is Sexual Addiction?”

by Michael Herkov, Ph.D., Mark S. Gold, M.D., and Drew W. Edwards, M.S. (6

Feb 2001)

Online Sexual Addiction Screenings Tests and other resources

http://www.sexualrecovery.com/resources/selftests/wsast.php
Sexual addiction tests

online

Women's Sexual Addiction Screening Test

Cybersex Addiction Screening Test

Partner's Sexual Co-Addiction Screening Test

Recovery from Sexual Addiction
-- http://healthymind.com/recovery

Numerous original articles explaining sex addiction as well as links to specially chosen

articles on the web. Written by psychologist David Bissette, Psy.D. (Washington, DC)

The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
-- http://www.ncsac.org

A non-profit organization dedicated to education and referral services. Offers membership

for lay public and professionals specializing in the treatment of addiction, offending

behaviors, and trauma. Includes a nationwide listing of affiliated counselors.

Sexual Recovery Institute
-- http://www.sexualrecovery.com

Outpatient treatment for men or women engaged in compulsive and addictive sexual

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behaviors. Clinical services for individuals, couples and groups, as well as professional

training for therapists and organizations.

Sex Addiction Recovery Resources
-- http://www.sarr.org/

Comprehensive collection of sex addiction recovery resources on the Internet. Selections

are categorized: Christian and secular approaches.

Cybersex Addiction
-- http://www.cybersexualaddiction.com/

A resource and referral information site for people seeking help with addictive or

compulsive computer-based sexual activity and cyber-infidelity problems.

Understanding Sexual/Love Addiction
-- http://www.understandingsexualaddiction.org

Offers sexual addiction screening and recovery tools for clinicians, addiction counselors,

support team members and addicts. Online support group meetings plus newsletter.

Hope and Recovery from Sexual Addiction -- http://www.michaeljohnsonphd.com/

Information and links for people suffering with sexual addiction and compulsivity.

http://www.sexualwholeness.com/isw/resources/7093/Farree2001.pdf

Females & Sexual addiction: Myths & Dignoses

Still, the reality is that there are those who may reject a man for his smaller penis size, just

as there are those who might reject a woman who has a smaller breast size or too many

freckles. Unfortunately, many men may respond to that kind of rejection by feeling bad

about themselves or that there's something wrong with them rather than feeling that they're

just not what the other person was looking for. Michael, 22, a music major says, "I think

some men do get rejected because of penis size, but if that's the only thing someone is

interested in, and they would reject me for that one thing, then what can I say. They are lots

of guys out there with big penises. I'm just not the one for you."

In a sexual relationship, the way we relate to our bodies is intimately linked to our feelings

about giving and receiving pleasure. If a man is unsatisfied with the way his penis looks, he

should ask himself a few questions: What standards am I using to compare myself? If I

have standards, are they realistic (and does anybody care about my standards besides me?)?

Is the size of my penis all there is to my sexuality? Ultimately, if a man can accept himself

just as it is, he won't have to worry if his penis isn't large, gigantic or too big to fit through

the doorway.

Darlene Mininni, MPH is the Coordinator of the Sexual Health Education Program in the

UCLA Student Health Service. And now you are plugged in to SexTalk. See you soon in

the next column. Thanks for reading. Thien Van

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Additional reading by Dr. Payne on human behavioral issues

3 Primal Drives, Essay

Help for Ailing Relationships

Delusional Beliefs: A Normative Coping Mechanism?

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Note: Dr. Payne has no financial interest in any of the commercial or other

websites listed in this article.

This article is © 2004 by Dr. Anthony G. Payne. All rights reserved. The information

contained in this article is provided for informational purposes only and should not be

construed as medical, sexual or psychological advice or instruction. Readers are advised to

consult the appropriate licensed health care or behavioral sciences professional concerning

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By Dr. Richard Jacob and Rev. Owen Thomas

In a society obsessed with size–with cars as small as soapbox racers and cell phones like matchbooks–it’s no wonder men with oversized male genitalia, or OMG, are still persecuted. But, a new book, How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice, Meditations, and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much, offers hope. It has finally given me the strength to come unzipped about my well endowed penis.

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In any case, I had no idea that 5 ½ to 6 ½ inches of stately manhood constituted a well endowed penis. Indeed, this is the book’s main goal: to raise awareness of OMGs. No longer should men be ashamed of the enormous birth defects cradled in their underpants like the muscular arm of a Siamese twin.

Not only did this book save my life, it also resurrected my manhood. Like many men with an OMG, I contemplated penis reduction surgery and even committing suicide by tying my penis around my neck and thinking of vaginas the size of the Hoover Dam. My tormented childhood, the embarrassment of having to wear a construction hard hat as a cup to little league baseball, was a huge factor in my move to Florida–a state that resembles my penis and no longer requires OMGs to be registered with the DMV.

Everyman with an OMG has struggled with the perpetual fear of his penis catching in doors or shaking loose from the shackles of duct tape that keeps it suspended in your shorts. For all you “normal” men, just imagine how difficult it is for someone with an OMG to fly: we’re continually strip searched under suspicion of smuggling missiles, and new regulations require us to purchase an extra seat to accommodate our OMG (After the movie Snakes on a Plane, airlines no longer allow OMGs to be stored in the overhead compartment or under the seat). A man who carries “a huge penis also carries a sack full of painful memories… Accidentally making sexual partners hemorrhage or vomit. Suffering the sweltering days of summer in long pants”(10).

These obstacles led one of the authors, Rev. Owen Thomas, into a life of celibacy and priestly man-dresses. Rev. Thomas met the coauthor, Dr. Richard Jacob, at a hospital after Jacob had beaten his huge penis bloody with a hammer.

Thomas and Jacob confront the bias toward OMGs head on. Grade school gym coaches still condone the ridicule of boys forced to sit on the sidelines of soccer games, because their OMGs can’t be contained by wind shorts and they lacked adequate penis guards. Even at CL, an office full of liberal writers, small penis propaganda abounds like, “my penis is so small it was on China’s female gymnastics team.”

Once and for all the authors overturn the myths that OMGs are contagious, or that men with huge penises have smaller brains. Horse-cock hatred isn’t limited to humans. Elephants are often poached not for their tusks, but for their second trunks, which make excellent sleeping bags. The only point the author’s disagree on is how to deal with small penis elitists. I side with Rev. Thomas, the acclaimed author of the crime novels Megapsycho and Thunderstorm of Blood; he suggests a crowbar.

Another chapter offers tips for unzipping: coming out to friends and family. Readers are advised to clear the room of “kill triggers,” large phallic objects that feed a desire to kill. Never unzip in anger or in a public venue. Move through the opening quickly so your family isn’t disappointed when they discover you’re not coming out about your homosexuality.

This book even delves into the sensitive issue of sex and maintenance. Cumcrete situations and Maury Povich Syndrome can be prevented by squeezing your member like a toothpaste tube and working it with a rolling pin. Every man with an OMG knows that vaginas turn to sandpaper as a natural defense against large penises. Although you may never go “balls deep” like your small penis friends, Harvard’s S.P.I.T (safe penile intercourse techniques) method will help you work the tip in. Advice is also given on preventing rod rash, tip gnawing, and uterine encroachment. Fainting spells from erections, or hallucinations of talking animals due to blood loss from the brain, can be managed by carrying pictures of your grandparents. Potentially fatal nocturnal erections can be prevented by wearing night guards. If you do find a safe harbor for your OMG, the authors suggest giant novelty condoms. I’ve also used Glad Bags with red handle ties, though only with limited success.

While How to Live with a Huge Penis is physically long, it contains a lot of fluff, which is partly due to the gaping hole in OMG research. The scientific community has long denied the “theory” of huge penises as they shake the tenants of evolution. Congress has systematically cut off OMG funding as huge penises are not mentioned in the Bible. The end of the book is largely blank for you to fill with your own advice on managing your OMG. Mine reads like a diary: “Dear Well Endowed Penis, today I bought you tube sock because I know how cold you get in the winter.”

This book doesn’t specifically address French Bread Loaves (long skinny penises) or tuna cans (thick short ones), but it’s inspiring that we’re finally openly discussing penises that aren’t the size of fishing tackle. When friends, and even potential love interests, drop by my apartment, I prominently display one of my copies of How to Live with a Huge Penis on the coffee table. If visitors have any further questions, I’m happy to unzip and drape my OMG over the arm of the couch. Our OMGs are out and proud, never again to be suppressed by tightly wrapped rolls of Ace bandages and baggy pants.

I go one step further than Thomas and Jacob, proposing that OMG supporters wear flesh colored ribbons. A month should be dedicated to OMGs, where students learn about how the theory of relativity was a consequence of Einstein reflecting on his massive penis, and how Mozart’s final opera, “The Magic Flute,” was an attempt to reconcile with his penis.

We must learn to be proud of our trouser cannons. Even though our penises are large enough for us to fellate ourselves, we must stand tall and remember that we are still men.

How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice, Meditations, and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much

How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice, Meditations, and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much
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For generations, conventional wisdom stated that you could never sell a book with 'penis' in the title - until Quirk's "Penis Pokey" shattered all of the rules, racking up 100,000 in net sales in just 18 months. In this same tradition comes "How to Live with a Huge Penis" - a gift every man will cherish, regardless of whether or not he actually needs it. Frankly, it's enough for someone to think he needs it. This hilarious self-help parody is full of compassionate advice for men afflicted with Oversized Male Genitalia (OMG).Far too often, these men are banished to the fringes of society, victims of their own freakish length and girth. But Dr. Richard Jacob and Rev. Owen Thomas are here with a message of tolerance and hope, along with hilarious advice on 'coming out' to your family, sharing your assets with a partner, and avoiding injury in the workplace. Complete with a daily affirmations journal and inspiring quotes from leading self-help experts, "How to Live with a Huge Penis" will send an uplifting message to men around the world.
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I this book for real or is it a joke book somebody wrote to make fun of guys big ones.We either get that,disbelief were all liars and only porn stars have big ones or the women prefer the average or small-Opps-screw me for having a big dick.

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Dr. Richard Jacob holds a PhD in Asian Economic Psychology from East Somerville University, where he was an instructor until 2003. He lives in Sherman, Connecticut, where he runs an e-commerce consulting business out of a spare bedroom in his home. Rev. Owen Thomas is an ordained Catholic priest, counselor, and celebrated crime novel author. His acclaimed series of Frank Stryver thrillers has sold nearly 43,000 copies to date, and one of these novels (Megapsycho) was translated into Korean. He lives in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and Miami Beach.
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This book changed my life.5
For years I struggled with this thing in my pants. I often asked myself if God made it, why did it hurt so many people's wives, sisters, mothers, and girlfriends? It just didn't seem fair. Especially when I supplied enough witty banter and vodka shots to ensure anal was also on the menu. But every time a lady would see it, she'd be like a Mexican nurse who slowly crosses herself and prays as she backs out of the room when a baby with claws for hands is born. However, just as having sex with girls in comas had left me wanting more, I found this book! And it changed my life! No more feeling bad about hearing the muffled cries in the bathroom after sex! No more feeling guilty about those unfortunate stitches! So, thanks "How to Live with a Huge Penis"! Your message of hope has inspired me to share my gift with the world!

Like a community in a book. Thank you.5
Having the girth of a large shampoo bottle is allegedly a blessing... as long as you're not the one with the "gift". Guys think they want one. Women think they want it given to them. However, my psyche is scarred (and confused) from the howls I've heard after I drop trou. Are they scared? Turned on? Is there a monster behind me? No. The monster has always been in my pants. Only now, after reading this wonderful book have I been able to make peace with my piece.

Disappointing
You know, life isn't easy. I have to lug around a 25" penis and, quite bluntly, I need some advice on how to live life. People think my right leg has a weird growth on it. My lower back is always hurting. If I get aroused, my head spins and I pass out. It's a cornucopia of problems and people always laugh when, after being asked what the problem is, you respond with "I have a really massive wang".The only women,who equile to my size is Tina Small or Chelsea Charms.Their breast are way too big and so my dick.

You know, it's not always funny. It's painful.

I thought, maybe, Richard Richard Jacob and Owen Thomas were kindred spirits in my battle against excessive genitalism. But NO --- these two chuckleheads decide to make this whole book a comedy.

Now, admittedly, the humor is pretty funny here and there...but there is real pain here. You ever throw out your shoulder tossing your penis over your shoulder because you had to wear shorts? Does your massive wang cause whirlpools should you ever decide to skinny dip? You know what it's like to not be able to make love to your wife within the same ROOM as your girl?

It's not bloody lovely. That's what it's like.

It even makes work a bother. At every interview, I get asked to first, show my penis and then second, bang the receptionist. You know, I'm not a piece of meat. And all of the queries as to why I'm not doing porn get annoying. I TRIED doing porn once and accidentally smashed the camera when I was fully aroused and turned around too quickly.

...I also gave my leading lady a concussion, broke a window in the next room, and, well, impregnated 3 different women in a 5 block radius. It was a little mortifying.

People always say it's a blessing. Well, I'm not seeing it. When you have to lug around a wang that weighs more than a full grown Great Dane, then you can talk to me.

And, no, I didn't type this using my fingers. I CANNOT do that.

Life is so unfair sometimes.

Small or average guys think right away,just your meats big,you get laid alot.After all people in porn do ?All those people in porn are just well endowed actors.People pay them to screw and most I bet are bi polar sex addicts.And trying to meet a female Size Queen dosen't help.You mess up with them,just as any woman.I met one at Large Penis Support Group.She seemed like me.We sertainly were very freindly,but for whatever reason,my anger problems and depression or her not trusting men,the whole went tits up.I'm still confused Mademe Zora and don't what think about her ?
The point,is a big ones a blessing and pain in the ass at the time.Sure,I like having a big dick.I get off knowing above average in lenth and thickness.

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well-en·dowed (wln-doud)
adj.
1. Having large breasts.
2. Having large genitals. Used of a male.Yeah.like anything over 7 inches
3. Having a large endowment or amount of money.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2009. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.
well-endowed
adj (well endowed when postpositive)
1. having a large supply of money, resources, etc.
2. (Life Sciences & Allied Applications / Physiology) Informal having a large penis
3. (Life Sciences & Allied Applications / Physiology) Informal having large breasts

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged 6th Edition 2003. © William Collins Sons & Co. Ltd 1979, 1986 © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003
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Adj. 1. well-endowed - (of a woman's body) having a large bosom and pleasing curves; "Hollywood seems full of curvaceous blondes"; "a curvy young woman in a tight dress"
bosomy, busty, buxom, curvaceous, full-bosomed, sonsie, sonsy, stacked, voluptuous, curvy
shapely - having a well-proportioned and pleasing shape; "a slim waist and shapely legs"
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Saturday, November 21, 2009

Above Average Penis Size

Above Average Penis Size

Serious Medical Studies and Clinical Trials Proved that Penis Exercises Can Indeed Increase Penis Length and Girth.
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Penis size is important but it's also the combination of skill, passion and romance. The love act is a process, not a picture, so don't wait for your penis to be your passport. It is natural for you to fixate on penis size, because when you are alone, you focus on your own penis for pleasure. But when someone else loves, respects, admires, and desires you, you will certainly have other things to think about than your penis size. If you are the kind of man whom prospective lovers wish to spend time with and be emotionally close to, then when the clothes come off, it will be the head on your shoulders that will be the primary object of desire rather than your penis. But countless women have agreed that the length of the penis has not much to do with sexual pleasure; but average penis girth may indeed matter in the long run.

Girth enlargement techniques are not as common as lengthening techniques, although it seems men are catching on. Men who begin penis enlargement sometimes get hung up on penis length, but they miss the vital point that penis girth is the most important aspect of penis size. When I started reading up on everything penis related I very quickly realized that girth holds the key to a woman's pleasure. I'm not saying that penis length isn't important, because of course it is, but any honest, sexually liberated woman will tell you that penis girth is the most important thing. A whopping 90% of women who were asked in a confidential survey said that girth was more important than length.


Penis girth is significant here since a meatier penis can stretch out the vaginal or anal walls that stimulate the nerves. It's the girth of a man's penis that gives pleasurable brings maximum pleasure to woman during sex. What you can do to improve your penis girth size. A man with a
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Herbal penis enlargement pills and penis enlargement exercises are the best methods of penis enhancement available currently. Some of the benefits of these exercises (also called male enhancement exercises) are increasing your ability to maintain harder and longer erections (making you able to last longer in bed), increasing the amount of semen you produce when ejaculate, improving your overall sexual control and performance, and, of course, making your penis larger.

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

So Who has the worlds biggest penis?

So Who has the worlds biggest penis?

World Record for the Biggest Penis Men have always considered their penis size as an important factor in their sexual and psychological health. With an enlarged penis comes self-confidence, more active social and sexual life, and, of course, a certain amount of edge in the ongoing subconscious battle for the position of the alpha male. Consequently, the question on many men’s minds is probably as to who has the largest human penis. Many studies have attempted to answer this question, but the results have been conflicting

Of course, the matter of man’s penis size is not a very ideal subject for objective study. The reason is that many men of the human species want to claim the honor of having the largest penis. Moreover there are many ways nowadays to keep artificially enhancing the natural manhood endownment of any man. Thus, it has become harder and harder to determine the answer to this important question. For the man’s most pressing sexual concern, the first thing to be done is determine if his penis size at least meets the average. There are several statistics dealing with today’s average penis sizes. In general caucasian males have penis sizes averaging about 6.2 inches long, with the approximate circumference of 3.2 inches.

However, studies conducted as early as 1795, have invariably shown that the African Negro race has superior penis length and roundness. Contrary to this, the studies conducted by the famous Kinsey Institute report only a minimal advantage for Negro races, whose genitals measure 6.3 inches in length and 3.7 in circumferences. In order to be closer to the truth, more conclusive data should be gathered in this area since the sampling of test subjects done in that particular Kinsey study yielded only about 50 black males as opposed to the 2,500 Caucasian males. This unequal sampling does not prove the figures given beyond doubt. Now that the averages have been established, it would be proper to tackle the matter of the world’s largest penises.

Unfortunately, the more precise details like the names of those blessed with the record-holding penises are very elusive pieces of information as understandably most would like stay incognito away from the limelight. However, the penis sizes themselves are easy to find. The largest, but unofficial measurement was obtained by Dr. David Reuben. He was able to encounter a subject with a penis that was 14 inches long, when erect, in 1969. This amazing information, however, remains unverified to this date. Thus, the official rank of the largest penis belongs to a man measured and documented by Dr. Robert Dickinson in the earlier part of the twentieth century. This record-holding penis was 13.5 inches in length and 6.25 inches in circumference. Several other studies from Alfred Kinsey, and other known scientists yielded impressive results, which ranged approximately from 9.5 to twelve inches.Most internet sourse,that reliable claim Jonah Falcon has the biggest penis.Anyone,claimming more 15 to 18 inches,more than like is about 10 to 11.Don't buy the hype,unless you see a tape measure.

At present, various claims from men all over the world have been made to several institutions stating that they possess even larger penises. The problem with the present claims, however, is that men nowadays are presented with so many opportunities for self enhancement, that it becomes difficult to judge the validity of their claims. The present record holder’s penis was measured in the earlier part of the 1900’s, which nullifies most of today’s technological advancement in penis enlargement techniques. Thus, until this date, Dr. Dickinson’s documented case remains to be the most valid candidate as the alpha male of the species.