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67% of women who expressed a preference for "well hung men" who participated in a 1999 on-line survey that incorporated a standardized test for sexual addiction during 1999 had W-SAST scores indicating possible sexual addiction.
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Sexual Addiction Among Women Seeking
“Well-Endowed” Male Partners: Results of a
Survey
By
Dr. Anthony G. Payne
We are by nature “hard wired” to seek out novelty as well as activities, practices
and indulgences and that give us pleasure. Sometimes the two go hand-in-hand, while at
others times they operate separately. Whether operating separately or in concert they appear
to ring all kinds of bells in the brain’s reward centers. This tends to reinforce our taking or
doing whatever it is that brought this about.
The pursuit of novelty or pleasure or both takes on many faces, some beneficial and
others that may be beneficial initially but which exact a toll in the short or long term. For
example, learning, exploration and discovery using a telescope, microscope or an
archeologist’s pick is satisfying at many levels and brings internal and “real world” rewards
(recognition, etc.) that encourage a ‘repeat performance’. For some, a glass of wine with
meals relaxes and pays off in terms of reducing certain heart disease risk factors. So long as
this pursuit does not edge out or totally eclipse important considerations such as spousal
needs, family, et cetera, it has merit. If it becomes the major or sole focus of one’s attention
and energies, then it can have negative consequences.
This basic principle applies to such “personal indulgence” pursuits as wagering for
gain (gambling), drinking, and sexual gratification as well. If the positives outweigh the
negatives for self and all concerned, the law is not broken, and no one is harmed or forced
to compromise their own standards of personal integrity or morality, then all is well at least
at a very fundamental level. But when these pleasurable indulgences visit harm or violation
on self or others, directly or collaterally, then trouble is in the offing.
Of course, pleasure-evoking things as gambling and booze can become addictive.
Statistics abound on the nature and scope of alcoholism and gambling addiction. But what
about sexual addiction? How prevalent is it?
According to Dr. Eli Coleman, director of the human sexuality program at
University of Minnesota Medical School in Minneapolis, approximately 3% to 5% of U.S.
adults are sexually addicted. He is quick to point out that these people are not pedophiles or
otherwise deviant in their sexual practices, but (rather) are “straight or gay people with
intense, recurrent sexual fantasies who are uncontrollably driven to compulsive sexual acts
that cause them trouble.” Coleman adds that “true sex addiction can't be chalked up to drug
or alcohol abuse or any medical condition”
http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/2003-08-
10-addiction-usat_x.htm
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The U.S. Census Bureau total population estimate for 2003 is 290,809,777 people.
74% are folks over age 18. If we take the lower estimate given by Dr. Coleman (3%), this
translates to about 6.5 million people who are sexually addicted!
The Hallmarks of Sexual Addiction
According to sexual addiction expert Dr. Patrick Carnes, there are ten possible warning
signs that are manifest in persons for whom sex is “the tail wagging the dog”:
1. Feeling that your behavior is out of control.
2. Being aware that there may be severe consequences if you continue.
3. Feeling unable to stop your behavior, despite knowing the consequences.
4. Persistently pursuing destructive and/or high-risk activities.
5. Wanting to stop or control what you're doing and taking active steps to limit your activities.
6. Using sexual fantasies as a way of coping with difficult feelings or situations.
7. Needing more and more sexual activity in order to experience the same high.
8. Suffering from intense mood swings around sexual activity.
9. Spending an increasing amount of time planning, engaging in or regretting and recovering
from sexual activities.
10. Neglecting important social, occupational or recreational activities in favor of sexual
behavior.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/sex_and_sexual_health/probs_sexaddiction.shtml
“Sexual addiction has many different forms: compulsive masturbation, sex with
prostitutes, anonymous sex with multiple partners, multiple affairs outside a committed
relationship, habitual exhibitionism, habitual voyeurism, inappropriate sexual touching,
repeated sexual abuse of children, and episodes of rape (Book, 1997). Of all forms of
sexual addiction, none is more harmful to both the addict and the victim than childhood
sexual abuse.
The beginnings of sexual addiction are usually rooted up in adolescence or
childhood. It is found that 60% of sexual addicts were abused by someone in their
childhood (Book, 1997,pp 52). The child may have grown up in a hostile, chaotic or
neglectful home, or the family may have been very normal but the child grows up
emotionally starved for love because affection is rarely expressed. Gradually sex becomes
a replacement act to turn to in times of any kind of need, from escaping boredom, to feeling
anxious, to being able to sleep at night. The child may repeatedly turn to masturbation for
escape….“
From
Sexual Addiction by Roschbeth Ewald
AllPsych Journal
http://allpsych.com/journal/sexaddiction.html
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Dr. Carnes developed this specific test to gauge sexual addiction in women called the “Woman’s
Sexual Addiction Screening Test” (W-SAST):
1. Were you sexually abused as a child or adolescent?
2. Do you regularly purchase romance novels or sexually explicit magazines?
3. Have you stayed in romantic relationships after they become emotionally or physically
abusive?
4. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts or romantic daydreams?
5. Do you feel that your sexual behavior is not normal?
6. Does your spouse or significant other(s) ever worry or complain about your sexual
behavior?
7. Do you have trouble stopping your sexual behavior when you know it is inappropriate?
8. Do you ever feel bad about your sexual behavior?
9. Has your sexual behavior ever created problems for you and your family?
10. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like?
11. Have you ever worried about people finding out about your sexual activities?
12. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?
13. Have you ever participated in sexual activity in exchange for money or gifts?
14. Do you have times when you act out sexually followed by periods of celibacy (no sex at
all)?
15. Have you made efforts to quit a type of sexual activity and failed?
16. Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others?
17. Do you find yourself having multiple romantic relationships at the same time?
18. Have you ever felt degraded by your sexual behavior?
19. Has sex or romantic fantasies been a way for you to escape your problems?
20. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?
21. Do you regularly engage in sadomasochistic behavior?
22. Has your sexual activity interfered with your family life?
23. Have you been sexual with minors?
24. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire or fantasies of romance?
25. Do you ever think your sexual desire is stronger than you are?
According to Dr. Carnes and associate Sharon O’Hara, W-SAST is “designed to assist
in the assessment of sexually compulsive behavior. This test is a screening instrument
meant to be used in the context of a therapeutic interview. By itself, the W-SAST does not
provide a diagnosis.” The scoring is as follows:
3 – 4 "yes" responses may indicate an area of concern and should be openly
discussed with a friend or family member.
5 - 7 positive answers suggests a need for further assessment of the problem
behavior, including the consideration of attending a 12-Step support program such
as Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous.
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More than 7 "yes" responses indicate a serious struggle with addictive sexual issues
with potentially self- abusive and/or dangerous consequences. Should seriously
consider professional treatment.
Dr. Carnes also developed a screening test for sexual addiction in men that can be accessed
by clicking this link
: http://www.sexualrecovery.com/resources/selftests/gsast.php
Narrowing the Focus
Dr. Carnes’ various online tests to screen for sexual addiction first appeared during
1997 (AOL, Prodigy and Compuserve came online around 1995). During 1998 I became an
AOL
Community Leader (AltMed Board) and in this capacity spent a great deal of time
researching and writing articles for posting on various popular medical, psychological and
sexual issues. During the process of searching the web for material germane to an article I
was writing on penile augmentation (surgical and non-surgical methods), I noticed many
message board posts made by women seeking “well endowed” male partners. The content
of some of these suggested that many were sex addicts. But were they really? And if so,
was their addiction spurred on by pleasurable experiences with “hung men” or the
anticipation of pleasure this might bring – or both? One way to find out, I reasoned, was to
conduct a survey. While what I had in mind was not necessarily scientifically rigorous, I
might at least garner some input and data that would indicate whether there was something
afoot that could be more methodically validated down the line.
In designing a survey form for “Women who prefer well-endowed men”, I
incorporated all the questions found on the W-SAST. After I was satisfied that it was
comprehensive and telling enough, I set up a special website on AOL featuring the survey
and then began advertising it on message boards and such where women were posting
information, questions, and such concerning sexuality and relationship issues (The survey
form in its entirety can be found at the end of this article).
Over the course of a one-year period (01/1998-01/1999) I received completed forms
from 42 women. Most were young to middle-aged (87%), heterosexual (85%), had a high
school education or better, were single or otherwise unattached (71%), were politically
conservative to moderate, and middle class (81%). Only 10% used tobacco and while 67%
(28 women) reported that they consumed alcoholic beverages, only 2 women described
their drinking as “heavy” (7%). And only one woman reported using an illicit drug
(Marijuana).
The vast majority defined a “well-endowed man” as possessing a penis 8”
long or longer and “thick” (29% favored a penile circumference or girth of 5-6 inches; 52%
6-7 inches; and 19% 7 plus inches). Girth, in fact, was frequently mentioned as being a very
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important characteristic. This dovetails with the findings of a survey study involving the
penis size preferences of female college published in
BMC Women’s Health during 2001
http://www.biomedcentral.com/1472-6874/1/1
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During January 1999 I carried out an analysis of the survey forms that revealed that
28 of the women (67%) had W-SAST scores indicating possible sexual addiction [And of
this group, 6 (14%) indicated they had been sexually abused as children or teenagers.
However, these 6 plus 22 others (28 = 67%) indicated they had endured some manner of
emotional abuse]. Sixteen had had prior experience with a well-endowed male partner, and
twelve had not. Of the fourteen women who did not score as sexually addicted, ten had had
relations with a well-endowed man and four had not.
During the course of writing up my survey findings (February 1999), I was offered
a unique opportunity to teach at a university outside Tokyo, Japan that required leaving the
US fairly quickly. Faced with a great deal of packing and organizing, I sat the survey
project aside and made plans to resume work on it at my earliest opportunity. Earliest, in
this case wound up being more than four years down the road.
Fast Forward – 2004
During February 2003 I returned to the USA, though it would be another year
before the survey project was at long last dug out of mothballs and revived. One of the
things that sent me shifting through boxes to retrieve the survey-related documentation had
to do with spam: specifically, the literal flood of unsolicited e-mails containing subject line
exhortations to “go big”, “enlarge your penis” and such. It appeared that being well
endowed was an increasingly hot issue. But what was behind this?
Quite obviously male insecurities over penis size were being exploited by a whole
host of people looking to capitalize on this. But I had to wonder: Was male psychology
alone informing this flurry of commercial come-ons, or were there actually lots of women
“out there” posting ads or messages soliciting dates or other kinds of relationships with
well-endowed men? A systematic search using several of the best search engines turned up
a multitude of ads and postings by women who were on a quest to find a well-hung man or
men. No doubt many, many men were reading these and finding themselves both titillated
and intimidated by their content!
The content of many of these ads and postings gleamed from the Internet seem to
suggest that a substantial number of women desiring well-endowed male partners were
either sexually addicted or addiction-prone. Perhaps if I could locate a large enough cache
of detailed ads from women who were looking for well-hung men, these might furnish
enough information to either buttress or refute what was revealed in the 1998-9 survey. It
didn’t take long to find what was needed:
The Big Date website
During August 2004 I paid a very modest one-time fee to gain temporary access to
Big Date, reputedly the only Internet introductions service that caters to people looking
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specifically to connect with well-endowed partners. What specifically attracted me to this
website was the fact its ad database section for “str8 women” (heterosexual) looking for
well-endowed “str-8 men” contains over 1000 ads. This is what I culled from BD (Used
with permission):
The majority of ads posted were made by white (68%), young to middle aged
women (76 % are between age 30 and 49). More than half (57%) are married or otherwise
attached. Most (77%) are seeking men with penises that range from 8”-10” in length, while
19% are looking for men with 10+” organs. In terms of girth preferences, 85% state that
they prefer prospective partner(s) who are “thick” while 16% are looking for men who are
“extra thick”. Generally speaking “thick” is employed most often to describe penile
circumferences that range from six to seven inches or so. Anything about 8” looks to
qualify as “extra thick” judging from what can be deduced from the ad text.
Since none of the women advertising on BD were tested by me using either my
original survey form or the W-SAST alone, there is no way to ascertain how prevalent
sexual addiction is among this population. Even so, the thrust of the majority of ads speaks
volumes concerning the mindset of what appears to be a large segment of these women
(Samples follow immediately below).
Legend
SWF – single white female
MWF- married white female
WaF – white attached female
SaF – Single attached female
SBF – single black female
MBF – married black female
SAF – single Asian female
MAF – married Asian female
SHF – single Hispanic female
HF – Hispanic female
SOF – single other race female
These ads have been slightly edited for conciseness, clarity and grammatical form, as well as to disguise the
advertiser’s location.
Women who have been with a well-endowed man or men
Looking for someone to help me scratch an itch. I am very oral and vocal, but not very
verbal. But I love to be talked to while being f****d hard by a big c**k. SHF, 34
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Only had one previous experience with a REALLY big c**k. Difficult to find again - seems
there aren't that many men with big ones. Please contact me if you do have a large one so
we can exchange photos and fantasies and possibly meet if everything seems right. WaF, 30
Hello, I am seeking a very well hung man at least 10 inches long, but preferably over 10
inches who is black, mixed with black, Indian or Hispanic. I can’t begin to describe the
pleasure a big d**k gives me and I miss it. I am also interested in group sex so if you are a
couple M/F or 2 males that is ok I would like to hear from you too if your packing a big one.
I am of mixed race but look Hispanic or Puerto Rican. SOF, 32
I am a very cute and curvaceous blonde. I enjoy giving oral to well hung men and love the
feel of a big c**k inside me. Men must be at least 9 inches long and thick. Race doesn’t
really matter. I’m looking for nice, clean cut man with average to better looks who is in
good shape. I am very clean and love to please a man. I promise that you won’t be sorry for
talking to me. SWF, 34
WF, 35, slim and considered attractive, with blonde hair and a toned, tanned body. I have a
very high sex-drive, enjoy most everything sexually and am very energetic and vocal in bed.
I am looking for a man at least 8 inches in length but who is also very well endowed in
terms of girth. I would prefer a guy who is at least 6 inches around as I find extra thickness
the only way I can experience orgasm during intercourse. Guys who have length plus
thickness or who are extremely thick please reply. Your age, race and marital status is of no
concern as I am only looking to a casual/semi-regular thing at present. Of course if sparks
fly then who knows. SWF, 36
I am a single woman who absolutely loves the feel of a well-endowed man. I have a great
sense of humor and a tremendous sex drive. If interested, email me. SWF, 41
I will come directly to the point: I am a slim black woman seeking a white male with a very,
very LARGE d***k. I am looking for a nonsmoker, tall, D/D free, professional, well
dressed, FIT and very oral straight male. I need someone 8+ inches and larger for an
intimate encounter. I have been with men up to 11 inches and enjoyed it very much. The
bigger, the better for me. If you live in or/are visiting the area please contact me. Please be
very ORAL and very uninhibited. If you are white male with 8 thick inches or more and
would love to share it with a black female please contact me. FYI...I love very large
c***ks!!!!! SBF, 43
I am a very sensual, sexual 51 year old woman seeking very well endowed men. One of my
previous lovers was 10+ inches and I would love to have that size inside me again. I am
full-figured, but agile, playful and adventurous. SWF, 53
Genuine "size queen". Petite, brunette, good looking 27yo professionally employed single
white female, looking for a genuine "donkey" sized male with a view to establishing a
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relationship. Have experienced "big" men before -- thickness and length are thus very
important to me. I'm also a lover of big b*lls, and what they produce.
So if you're genuine, down to earth, and hung like a donkey, please don't be shy. SWF, 27
I'm a horny Texas Honey who is looking for a huge c**k to stretch me open. Must be at
least 9" and very fat, because I want to feel it for a few days after. Serious only, must live in
Texas. I am attractive and very sexually oriented, love to give and receive oral sex and
enjoy long periods of nothing but pure unadulterated fun sex. Hope to hear from you soon.
SWF, 29
Women whose status with regard to experience with a well hung man or men
is difficult to determine with certainty
I'm looking to meet guys hung 9" or better and THICK! I live in Nevada and enjoy meeting
men here on vacation, for conventions, etc. SWF, 45
I am looking to experience the wild side of sex. I especially want to know what it is like to
feel the stretch. Any good guys who either want to fulfill my fantasy or let me fulfill theirs,
please contact me. I have plenty of fantasies to share. MWF, 42
I am a black female who hasn't been fulfilled in a long time. I need a man with 8 inches or
more to satisfy my needs and desire. I have size 38E breasts and need someone to suck my
nipples and fondle them well. I also want to please you in any way possible. SBF, 35
I am a sexy single black female looking for all big long, well endowed thick c**k men, age
and race is unimportant. I am DDF and CLEAN and have a very strong sex drive, cannot
get enough sex, so email me and I will respond back with a contact number and we can
meet for lots of hot sex. And please do send a jpg format picture to me when you email me.
No pain, only pleasure. Couples with well-endowed men email me with a jpg picture and a
contact number and I will call you and we can meet. Men with 9 inches or 9+ or 10 inches
or 11inches, or 12 inches or 13 inches, or 14 inches please do email me ASAP. I don’t do
one-night stands, looking forward to getting together with you very soon. SBF, 46
I am searching for a man that has the right equipment to satisfy a lady with a voracious
sexual appetite. I cannot seem to find someone large enough to really satisfy me. Are you
that man? SWF, 40
Hello, I am tried of the "little" men that I have slept with in the past! I am seeking a white
man 30-50 who is extremely well hung (10+) and thick. I need to feel what it is like to feel
full. I am for real and am not playing games. Serious inquires only. Picture proof. Your
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time is important as is mine. Hope to here from some "real" men. You won't regret it! SWF,
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Women who have not experienced a well-hung man or men
I am a fit black woman living in London. My greatest fantasy is to have a hung man fill me
up, slowly and pain free: to give me the ultimate orgasm, as I have never experienced it. So
if you are willing to help me out, feel free to email me. SBF, 36
Looking for hung men to satisfy a need I have. Have never been with a well-hung guy.
Looking for 9+ inches. Inexperienced but very horny! SWF, 42
Sexy redhead looking for hung man/men or couples with a hung man. Must be well
endowed, as I have had a lot of experience with smaller men and am not interested in a
“repeat”. Hope to hear from you soon. SWF, 26
I am a black married woman looking to experience a really well hung man. My husband of
one year is of average size, and I have always been curious about big d**ks. It is my
fantasy to have sex with a well hung man and then tell my husband all about it. He might
even want to join in! MBF, 27
I am looking for well-endowed men to fill me up and thus satisfy my fantasy. I have been
dreaming of a man with a 9+ in. c**k just putting the hammer down on me to the point
whereby I can hardly move afterwards. If you think you’re that guy then we definitely have
to see if you can perform like the men in my dreams -- hopefully even better. SWF, 23
I am a married Indian lady looking to make my fantasy come true, insofar as I would like to
be fully penetrated by either a white or black male with a very large penis. Is there a nice
and genuine male like this out there? MAF, 42
I am very physically fit and have been told that I am quite attractive. I have a very high sex
drive and nurse a fantasy of being with a huge man! I have never had a huge man before,
but I have seen pictures and it drives me wild. I think there is nothing more erotic or
powerful looking than a very hung man. If you are 9"+ and very thick, please send a photo
and I will send you pictures of myself. Very clean, D&D free and discretion is required.
SWF, 43
I am a single female looking for a well-endowed guy. I have never had a large guy before
and would like to try you. SWF, 32
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I would like to experience being with a man who is “blessed” down there. I have never
been with anyone over 5 to 6 inches long. After having had 2 children I have come to
realize that size does matter! I am looking for an attractive, clean man, down to earth and
easy going. Someone who understands this situation! I am not into pain or anything funky.
I am a professional, sincere, down to earth woman, attractive with a cute smile to boot. I am
caring, artistic and passionate. HF, 39
I am a petite mature woman who has always wanted a well-hung man to pleasure me the
way I know only a man of large dimensions could. I have been married for a long time to a
man who is, if anything, barely average and I long for complete fulfillment; to be
completely full. Not looking for long-term relationship or any type of strings, only a friend
and long time lover. MWF, 46
Give me the thrill of a lifetime! I am a 47 year old MWF who feels its time to experience a
big c**k. I’m a little on the heavy side with nice size breasts for you to play with, and am
looking for a man with no facial hair, a non smoker who packs 8 inches or better. He must
enjoy kissing and taking his time with me so I can enjoy the thrill of taking so much c**k.
If you do not measure up, please do not reply. MWF, 48
Ok, I am here because I want one thing! I am a MWF, 30, attractive, brunette, great body,
somewhat shy and inexperienced with sex. I want to know if bigger is really better, but I
don't know how/where to find the right guy. I'm not looking for kinky sex, just oral and
normal sex. MWF, 31
Hi, I am have been married over 30 years and have three grown children. My sex drive has
gotten stronger and my husband cannot satisfy me anymore. I am looking for a young (18
& up) well hung black man to satisfy my “dark craving.” Uncut would certainly be a
tremendous turn on for me. MWF, 54
I have never had a really huge man before and crave it so much! I adore huge d**ks,
hoping someone out there fits the bill. I am very clean and want the same from you. I love
to experiment and always give lots of attention to my partner including oral giving and
receiving. Love men of other races. Hope to hear from you soon. SBF, 41
Summing it up
Of the forty-two women who completed survey forms during 1998-9, two-thirds
scored high enough on the (embedded) W-SAST to qualify as sexually addicted. 57% of
these women reported having had prior sexual experience with a well-endowed man, while
43% stated they had not. Drug use and alcohol abuse is not a significant player in the lives
of women in either group (sexually addicted, non-addicted).
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In my 2004 review of all the BD ads posted by “str8” (heterosexual) women
looking for well hung men, most were adamant that their prospective partners be drug and
disease free, and either employ safe sex measures (condoms) or provide proof of diseasefree
status (This parallels in many respects the stance of the women who participated in the
1998-9 survey). And while no determination could be made concerning the percentage of
these women who are sexually addicted, at least half or more used language that suggests
the presence of a kind and degree of ‘obsession’ that is characteristic of sexually addicted
or addiction-prone people.
Human sexual behavior is intimately tied to rewards – as in pleasures realized or
anticipated. When the pursuit of sexual pleasure interferes with one’s job, family, sense of
contentment or such, addiction or addiction-prone tendencies is indicated. Sixty-six percent
(66%) of those who took part in the 1998-9 “Women Who Prefer Well-Endowed Men”
survey qualified as being sexually addicted according to their scores on the W-SAST
portion of the survey form. If this level of addiction proves to be true of women who utilize
dating and relationship forums for the express purpose of connecting with well-endowed
men, justification would exist for marshalling greater resources to help make these women
cognizant of the emotional, sexual and mental health issues involved and of their need to
avail themselves of testing and (if indicated) counseling.
Returning now to the estimate mentioned early on in this article that 3-5% of
American adults are sexually addicted: If the lower number --3% -- is accurate this
translates to 6.5 million people. If one-quarter to one-half of these is women we are talking
1.23 to 3.25 million mothers, daughters, sisters, grandmothers, aunts and so forth. That we
need to reach out to them is almost a given. And if what my 1998-9 survey indicates is even
partially true, a good place to begin may be services, message boards, and such where
women go in search of a “big date.”
Contact information:
Comments, questions and such concerning the content and issues
raised in this article should be e-mailed to Dr. Payne at
DrAGPayne@yahoo.com
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Analysis of 1998-1999 online “Women who prefer well-hung Men” survey responses
Age range
:
19-29: 5%
30-39: 52%
40-49: 35%
50+: 8%
Sexual orientation:
Heterosexual: 85%
Bisexual: 15%
Homosexual: 0%
Race:
White: 61%
Black: 17%
Hispanic: 10%
Asian: 5%
Other: 7%
Religious background:
Christian: Protestant: 43%
Catholic: 17%
Jewish: <1%
Muslim: <1%
Atheist/Agnostic: 2%
Other/none reported: 36.5%
Socioeconomic status:
Lower: 12%
Middle: 81%
Upper: 7%
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Education:
Did not graduate HS: 5%
HS graduate: 95%
Undergraduate degree: 25%
Graduate, professional
or higher degree: 8%
Political Persuasion:
Conservative: 19%
Moderate: 57%
Liberal: 23%
Ultraliberal: 1%
Body type:
Small (Petite): 14%
Average: 27%
Large/BBW: 52%
Athletic: 7%
Relationship status:
Single/unattached: 71%
Married/Attached: 29%
Tobacco, Alcohol, Drug use:
Use tobacco: 10%
Use alcohol: 67% (28 drinkers. 2 reported a heavy pattern of consumption)
Use illicit drugs: <1%
Location:
New England: 10%
Mid-Atlantic: 14%
South: 24%
Southwest: 12%
Midwest: 7%
West: 33%
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Penis Size range preference:
Length preference
:
7-8”: 17%
8-9”: 45%
9-10”: 24%
10+: 14%
Girth preference breakdown:
5-6”: 29%
6-7”: 52%
7+: 19%
Circumcision preference:
Prefer circumcised: 86%
Prefer uncircumcised: 7%
Didn’t specify: 6%
Sexual history/activity data:
%age reporting having/having had a STD: 12% (Herpes, chlamydia)
%age reporting having/having had a psychiatric illness or condition: 3%
%age reporting having been sexually abused as a child or teenager: 14%
Average # of sex partners (total – lifetime to-date): 4
Sexual Addiction Status Analysis
:
Sexually addicted
: 28 of 42 women – 67%
S.A. having experienced sex with a well-endowed partner: 57% (of the 28)
S.A. having no experience with a well-endowed partner: 43% (of the 28)
Not sexually addicted:
14 of 42 women – 33%
Not S.A. having experienced sex with a well-endowed partner: 71% (of the 14)
Not S.A. having no experience with a well-endowed partner: 29% (of the 14)
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Analysis of Ads posted by “straight 8 (heterosexual) women” seeking “straight 8
(heterosexual)” well-endowed male partners on a major online internet dating service
for those seeking well-endowed partners --- August 2004
Age range
:
19-29: 19%
30-39: 48%
40-49: 28%
50+: 5%
Race:
White: 68%
Black: 16%
Hispanic: 8%
Asian: 2%
Other: 6%
Body type:
Small (Petite): 25%
Average: 29%
Large/BBW: 30%
Athletic: 16%
Relationship status:
Single/unattached: 57%
Married/Attached: 43%
Location:
New England: 5%
Mid-Atlantic: 16%
South: 28%
Southwest: 9%
Midwest: 20%
West: 22%
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Penis Size range preference:
Length preference
:
7-8”: 4%
8-9”: 36%
9-10”: 41%
10+: 19%
Girth preference breakdown:
“Thick”: 85%
“Extra Thick”: 16%
_________________________________________________________________________
Women's Sexual Background & Preferences
Survey
Sex Questionnaire
(Designed for Women who prefer "well endowed" men)
Questionnaire developed by:
Dr. Anthony G. Payne
Thanks for linking up to this website. Your participation in this study
consists of completing the questionnaire (below). Your responses will help
clarify certain aspects of female sexual preference (Including penis size).
Feel free to add comments, anecdotes, etc., to any question. And do
employ the terms and language you are most accustomed to using (Don't
worry about trying to tender a scholarly work or about grammar, syntax or
spelling).
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Note: This survey form is long and will require some effort on your part to
complete. Please do not let this deter you from completing this survey. The
answers you alone are in a position to provide will help me in creating a
psychosexual profile of women who prefer "well endowed" men.
General Background - all areas
1. Please indicate your age:
2. Body Build (Petite, thin, average, large, very large):
3. Race/ethnic origins:
4. Your family: How big? Number of sisters:
brothers:
5. Parents still alive? If so, still married to each other?
6. Reared in what area of the country?
7. Religious background: Christian (Protestant, Catholic, Orthodox, other),
Jewish (Orthodox, Reform, Liberal, etc), Muslim, Atheist, Agnostic, Other
(Provide details)
8. Did you parents openly display affection towards each other and
you/your siblings? Or discourage same?
9. Politically, are you an ultraconservative, conservative, moderate, liberal
or ultraliberal?
10. Morally, are you more aligned with (say) a fundamentalist religious
mindset - or something more liberal? Describe your moral
outlook/philosophy.
11. Married, single, divorced or separated?
12. If married, for how long?
13. Age at which first period occurred:
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14. Use birth control pills?
15. If perimenopausal, menopausal or post-menopausal - indicate which:
16. Using any hormone replacements? (Thyroid, progesterone, estrogen,
DHEA, pregnenolone, etc.)
17. Do you use tobacco? If yes, type and amount per day. (Example:
Smoke 10 cigarettes daily)
18. Do you drink alcoholic beverages? If so, indicate type and amount per
day on average.
19. Do you use any herb or supplement or drug reputed to boost or
otherwise alter the human sex drive?
20. What type of physical activities do you engage in regularly? (Example:
Bike twenty minutes every other day)
21. Have any physical handicaps/limitations?
22. Current Health status:
List any medications presently used (Prescription and over-the-counter)
List any illicit drugs you use (Illegal drugs):
23. Ever been treated for a sexually transmitted disease (STD)? If yes,
nature of the disease and resolution (Example: Herpes - contracted at age
sixteen - no flair ups in 10 years)
24. Highest educational level attained:
25. Your current occupation:
26. Number of children (Put 0 if none) + age(s) & sex. Indicate the number
living with you.
27. Religious tradition (if any):
28. Do you attend church, synagogue, mosque, etc? If so, how often?
29. Hobbies (If any):
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30. Socioeconomic status: Lower, upper lower, middle, upper middle, lower
upper, upper
31. What area of the country do you live in? (North, NW, South, SW, east,
etc.)
32. Do you live in an apartment, condo, penthouse or house (Specify)?
Rent or own?
Suburbs, inner city or rural area?
33. Are you now or have you ever been addicted to any drug, alcohol or
other substance(s)? If yes, please give details and treatment/outcome (If
any):
Specific information - Sexual/Psychological
1. Ever been diagnosed and/or treated for a serious psychological
condition? (Example: Depression, Bipolar illness, schizophrenia, parinoia,
etc.)
2. If yes, age at diagnosis - treatment(s) - outcome:
3. Describe your personality (Outgoing, shy, etc.)
4. Age of first sexual experience & nature (Example: Age 12 - intercourse
with boyfriend).
5. Sexual orientation (Exclusively heterosexual, bisexual, exclusively
homosexual)
6. Do you entertain sexual fantasies often? If yes, nature and frequency
(Example: Daydream of sex with _____________- twice daily)
7. Do you masturbate? If yes, setting and frequency (Example: With
partner & I in bed - twice weekly. And alone while fantasizing - three times
weekly)
8. Preferred form of sexual activity:
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Done to you:
That you like doing for your partner(s):
9. Do you watch hardcore videos?
10. Do you watch porno alone? With your partner only? Both?
11. If you watch porno tapes alone, do you masturbate while watching?
12. What role (if any) do sexual toys or aids play in your love life?
13. Were you sexually abused or molested as a child or teenager?
14. Was your father or mother emotionally distant or absent during your
childhood or teenage years? Did either or both parents cause you to feel
emotional deprived, tormented, abused or neglected? If yes, give a brief
description.
15. Do you regularly read romance novels or sexually explicit
magazines/tabloids?
16. What size male penis strikes you as being "well endowed" (length and
circumference)?
a. Which produces the greatest pleasure: A long penis? A penis with great
girth? A penis which is both long and of great girth?
b. Do you actually measure your male partners?
c. Keep a diary of the men, their size and/or skill in bed?
d. Photograph your mate's/men's penis(es)? Make casts or drawings of
them?
e. Videotape your sexual unions with well-endowed men? If yes, do you
regularly watch same? If yes, alone or with others? Do you masturbate
while watching these videos?
f. Do you have a mirror above or near your bed to facilitate "viewing the
action"? Like to do so?
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17. Do you prefer circumcised or uncircumcised? Doesn't matter? If you
have a preference - explain why you feel drawn to or excited by your choice.
18. What do feel led to your fascination or preference for well-hung men?
[Example: Sex with well-endowed men is more exciting than with average
men. Got turned on by seeing large men in porno movies at age fifteen.
Like the look of large penises - reminds me of________ (fill in the blank).
Etc.]
19. How many well-hung men have you been with (sexually)?
If you know: The largest in terms of size (length, circumference):
Current lover's size (length, circumference):
Your idea of the ideal size male penis (Length, circumference):
In what ways (if any) do larger males differ from less endowed in terms of
sensations, satisfaction, etc.?
20. How many sexual partners total (lifetime) - male and/or female
(Indicate which plus number. Example: 17 men, 4 women)
21. In what ways are well endowed men better than average or below
average endowed men? In what ways are they worse (if any)?
22. Do you practice safe sex with your partners? If not, why not?
(Examples: Don't care. Have him take STD test before we get together).
23. Are you readily & easily orgasmic? (Attain orgasm easily) If yes, do you
readily attain orgasm during all forms of sex? Only intercourse? Only oral
sex?
24. Are you multi-orgasmic?
25. Does S & M (sadomasochism) or B & D (Bondage & Discipline) play a
role in your sex life? If yes, describe nature & frequency (Example: Like to
be tied up and have cunnilingus performed on me twice a week on average)
26. Do you have a “super turn on”? (Get especially turned on by a specific
item of clothing or a body part or feature - to the point of needing this to
enjoy sex fully)
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27. Have you ever stayed in a relationship after it become abusive
(Physically or emotionally)?
28. Do you often find yourself consumed with sexual thoughts, fantasies or
romantic daydreams?
29. Do you feel that your sexual life/behavior on the whole is exactly
normal? If yes, explain.
30. Does your spouse [or significant other(s)] ever voice concerns/complain
about any of your sexual interests, behaviors or pursuits? If yes, explain.
31. Do you have trouble putting the brakes on sexual behavior even after
you realize it is inappropriate?
32. Have you ever had or currently have a sexual "hang up", obsession, or
behavior which has created or is creating problems for you and/or your
family? If yes, explain.
33. If you answer yes to the question above: Have you sought help for a
sexual "weakness" or behavior you did not care for? Has anyone been
emotionally hurt because of your sexual conduct or pursuits?
34. Have you ever been deeply concerned or worried that other people
might find out about your sexual pursuits or interests?
35. Have you ever participated in a sexual activity for money or material
rewards?
Are you now or have you ever been a compulsive shopper or gambler?
36. Do you prefer to engage solely in sex one-on-one - or with others?
(Threesome, orgy, gangbang). If you prefer more than one partner,
elaborate [Example: Prefer my male partner and two other women]. Why
more than just one partner?
37. Do you have times when you are intensely sexually active followed by
periods of complete sexual abstinence (celibacy)?
38. Have you made efforts to quit a particular sexual activity or pursuit
and failed?
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39. Do you hide certain sexual desires or behaviors from your partner(s)?
Others (friends, family)?
40. Do you sometimes/often indulge multiple romantic and/or sexual
relationships at the same time?
41. Have you ever felt uncomfortable with or degraded by your sexual
desires or conduct?
42. Are sex or romantic fantasies now or at any time been a way for you to
escape your problems? If yes, when and under what circumstances.
43. When you engage in sexual activity, do you feel let down or depressed
afterwards? (Specify which)
44. Has your sexual interests, activities or conduct interfered with your
personal or family life?
(Specify which and elaborate)
45. Have you had sexual contact with (a) minor(s)?
46. Do you feel controlled or otherwise compelled by your sexual desires
and/or romantic fantasies? (If yes, elaborate)
47. Do you ever feel that your sexual cravings or desires are
overwhelming?
48. Do you like to watch well endowed men masturbate? Engage in oral or
anal sex with other men and/or women?
49. If married, do you have an "open marriage"? Swing alone - together -
both?
50. If you are married and cheat on your spouse or partner, explain why
you think you do this. How often during the past year? Five years?
51. Did you engage in incestuous sexual relations as a child or teenager? If
yes, explain the nature and duration. (Example: Had sex with male 1st
cousin once a month on average between ages 12-16. Was mutually
enjoyable. Got caught - contact ended)
52. Ever been raped or "date raped"? (If yes, specify which and elaborate)
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53. Do you like to have sex in public or semi-public places? If yes, why?
54. Ever been arrested for a sexual offense? If yes, elaborate.
55. When you have sex, are you very vocal? How so? (Use dirty language,
moan, groan, scream out. etc.)
56. Do you like for your partner to use dirty language during foreplay?
Sex? Moan and groan during either or both?
57. Do you like to perform fellatio (oral sex) on your mate/men? If so, what
turns you on about this sexual practice? Do you swallow his semen - spit
it out - other? (Elaborate)
58. Do you enjoy seeing a man ejaculate? If yes, why?
59. Do you enjoy having your backside (anus) licked as part of sexual
activity? If yes, how often is this part of your sex life? Do you like to
perform this on your partner?
60. Do kinky sexual practices like "golden showers", i.e., being urinated on
or urinating on your partner(s) excite you and/or your partner? If yes,
what make this practice thrilling or sexually exciting?
61. How long - on average - do you like for foreplay to last? Intercourse?
62. On a scale of 1 to 10 - 1 being very low, 10 being intense - rate your
sex drive:
63. How many times (on average) per week do you have intercourse?
64. What is the most pleasurable sexual position for you? (Missionary, on
top, doggy style, etc.)
65. When your male partner(s) ejaculate inside you, can you feel it? (If yes,
describe the sensation)
66. How many orgasms per day (on average) does it take to keep you
sexually satisfied/content?
67. How important is sex (overall) to your personal happiness and/or well
being?
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68. Do you tend to prefer sexually explicit magazines and/or videos
featuring "well hung" men? If yes, favorite theme(s): Heterosexual, bisexual,
homosexual, mixed, orgies, gangbangs, etc.
69. Do you believe that one particular race or ethnic group is better in bed
than others? Has more well hung men than others? If you do, on what do
you base this belief or conviction?
70. Do you intentionally scrutinize clothed men's groin areas in an effort to
determine whether they are "well hung"?
Do you ever catch yourself doing this without thinking about it?
71. If you were given $12 million dollars - what would you do with it - and
the rest of your life?
72. Rate the following from 1 (unimportant) to 5 (very important) - in terms
of your mate/men:
Attractiveness
Pronounced sense of humor/Wit
General intelligence
Outgoing/pleasant personality
Sense of romance
Nice body frame or build
Having a large penis
Being generous with time
Being generous with money
Skilled at communicating
Having a good income
Having a professional occupation
Being well educated
Having and/or practicing a religious faith
Having a high sex drive
Having a great sexual capacity/responsiveness
Loving children
Agreeing with my viewpoints on most of the important issues & things in
life
73. Do you belong to a swingers club or clubs? If so, how many - and how
often do you utilize their services?
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74. Ever had interracial sex? If so, list the race/ethnicity of your partner(s)
and rate their "performance" (ability to satisfy you).
75. If you have a favorite, recurring sexual fantasy - briefly describe it.
76. Rate yourself as a lover - from 1 (not so great) to 10 (Unbelievably great
in bed).
77. Given a choice between a "well endowed" lover with a poor love making
technique - and an average (endowed) man who is skilled in lovemaking -
which would you prefer?
78. Where do you see your personal and sexual life five years down the
road? Ten?
Feel free to pass along comments, anecdotes, and any other material you
feel will help clarify your sexual background, desires, and preferences.
Your participation in this survey is greatly appreciated!
NOTE: Submission of this survey form constitutes express permission (for
Dr. Anthony G. Payne) to utilize it's content in the drafting and publication
of papers, books, etc. All liabilities or other interest in these works is
waived.
This survey form © 1998 by Dr. Anthony G. Payne. All rights reserved.
_______________________________________________________
Resources & Additional Reading
Evolution & Human Sexuality, Sexual Characteristics, etc.
Sexual selection and penis size in men
Sexual selection and genital evolution
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http://www.serpentfd.org/historyevolutionchapter3.html
... female choice in human evolution is evidenced by the size of the male penis...
penis size and testicle size are impacted by female choice in other species. There is
a close correlation between testicle size and penis size and promiscuous social
structure as seen in chimpanzees where males with larger testicles and penises
produce and distribute larger quantities of sperm creating an advantage over the
other males (Margulis & Sagan, 1991), If you are a male living in a hierarchically
organized social system, a gorilla harem for example, then copious amount of
sperm production or a long penis does not increase your chances of producing
progeny. Your ability to prevent other males from sexual contact with females, by
force or intimidation, positively influences your chances of reproductive success.
Gorillas retain a diminutive penis and testicle size..."
http://www.serpentfd.org/historyevolutionchapter3.html
“As any rational person would have expected, the largest organisms ever to exist on
earth would also have the largest endowments. Among land animals, African bull
elephants lead the pack with their 5 to 6 ft. extremities. Whale penises, called dorks
(yes, when called a dork in grade school you were actually being compared to a
whale schlong), are the largest in the world, the blue whale being the champ with
phalli approximately 10 ft. long and 1 ft. in diameter. Its smaller cousins, notably
the appropriately named humpback and sperm whale, have penises that measure 9
feet or so. Makes you wonder if this is what Melville had in mind when he chose
the title
Moby Dick..."
http://www.whitedisk.150m.com/Sexrecords/page1.htm
In nature, the top goal of any mammal is survival and procreation. And the female mammal
is not only responsible for being the vehicle by which the pregnancy and birth takes place
but she is also responsible for the selection of the male partner that will impregnate her.
The three biggest factors in this determination are: 1) Survival skills (strength, the ability to
win over the competition, etc.), 2) testicle size and 3) penis size.
Penis Size:
The closer the penis opening is to the cervix (the doorway to the "child-carrying" uterus),
the greater the chances that a sperm will survive the harsh female defense systems and
make it to the waiting egg. In the animal world, a larger penis size is seen as better in the
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female mammal's male selection process since it can penetrate deep into the vagina,
increasing the likelihood of a pregnancy.
So the strongest male with the biggest penis and the biggest balls was picked by the female
mammal to ensure survival and procreation. And so over time, the male mammals in a
particular region naturally began having bigger and bigger penis sizes. This is over
thousands of years where only the well-endowed males were picked and allowed to pass on
their "well-endowed" genetic code.
Penis size throughout human evolutionary history seemed to take on the same role as larger
antlers in deer or larger horns has in bulls. Females just saw the stronger men with big
penis sizes as more "equipped" to father and protect a family. But this is always in
relationship to the average vagina size of a particular region. In any particular region, you'll
find that the penis size and vagina size of the indigenous people begin to equal.
“The (Im)moral Animal A Quick & Dirty Guide to Evolutionary Psychology & the Nature
of Human Nature”
By Frank Miele :
http://www.skeptic.com/the_magazine/archives/vol04n01.html
Penis issues including size, enlargement
Spam plays on male insecurities about penis size:
http://msnbc.msn.com/id/3979636/
The Natural History of Penis Size Enlargement Methods (Commercial site but has some
interesting information posted):
http://www.penis-natural-enlargement.com/pehistory.htm
The Kinsey Institute
Many references on penis size
Durex Scientific
Site by the manufacturer of Durex condoms
The Penis Website
Comprehensive site on the penis and male sexuality
http://www.the-confident-penis.com/penis-size.html
Penis size (Commerical site)
Body Dysmorphic Disorder/The Adonis Complex
http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic3124.htm
Body Dysmorphic Disorder
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http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/p010353.html
- Body Dysmorphic Disorder in Males
http://facultyofpsychology.com/0684869101.html
-- The Adonis Complex
What is Sexual Addiction?
http://www.jenniferschneider.com/articles/recognize.html
“How to recognize the signs of
sexual addiction: Asking the right questions may uncover serious problems” by Jennifer P.
Schneider, MD, PhD Vol. 90/N0 6/Novmber 1, 1991/Postgraduate Medicine – Sexual
Addiction
http://psychcentral.com/library/sexaddict_intro.htm
“What is Sexual Addiction?”
by Michael Herkov, Ph.D., Mark S. Gold, M.D., and Drew W. Edwards, M.S. (6
Feb 2001)
Online Sexual Addiction Screenings Tests and other resources
http://www.sexualrecovery.com/resources/selftests/wsast.php
Sexual addiction tests
online
Women's Sexual Addiction Screening Test
Cybersex Addiction Screening Test
Partner's Sexual Co-Addiction Screening Test
Recovery from Sexual Addiction
-- http://healthymind.com/recovery
Numerous original articles explaining sex addiction as well as links to specially chosen
articles on the web. Written by psychologist David Bissette, Psy.D. (Washington, DC)
The National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
-- http://www.ncsac.org
A non-profit organization dedicated to education and referral services. Offers membership
for lay public and professionals specializing in the treatment of addiction, offending
behaviors, and trauma. Includes a nationwide listing of affiliated counselors.
Sexual Recovery Institute
-- http://www.sexualrecovery.com
Outpatient treatment for men or women engaged in compulsive and addictive sexual
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behaviors. Clinical services for individuals, couples and groups, as well as professional
training for therapists and organizations.
Sex Addiction Recovery Resources
-- http://www.sarr.org/
Comprehensive collection of sex addiction recovery resources on the Internet. Selections
are categorized: Christian and secular approaches.
Cybersex Addiction
-- http://www.cybersexualaddiction.com/
A resource and referral information site for people seeking help with addictive or
compulsive computer-based sexual activity and cyber-infidelity problems.
Understanding Sexual/Love Addiction
-- http://www.understandingsexualaddiction.org
Offers sexual addiction screening and recovery tools for clinicians, addiction counselors,
support team members and addicts. Online support group meetings plus newsletter.
Hope and Recovery from Sexual Addiction -- http://www.michaeljohnsonphd.com/
Information and links for people suffering with sexual addiction and compulsivity.
http://www.sexualwholeness.com/isw/resources/7093/Farree2001.pdf
Females & Sexual addiction: Myths & Dignoses
Still, the reality is that there are those who may reject a man for his smaller penis size, just
as there are those who might reject a woman who has a smaller breast size or too many
freckles. Unfortunately, many men may respond to that kind of rejection by feeling bad
about themselves or that there's something wrong with them rather than feeling that they're
just not what the other person was looking for. Michael, 22, a music major says, "I think
some men do get rejected because of penis size, but if that's the only thing someone is
interested in, and they would reject me for that one thing, then what can I say. They are lots
of guys out there with big penises. I'm just not the one for you."
In a sexual relationship, the way we relate to our bodies is intimately linked to our feelings
about giving and receiving pleasure. If a man is unsatisfied with the way his penis looks, he
should ask himself a few questions: What standards am I using to compare myself? If I
have standards, are they realistic (and does anybody care about my standards besides me?)?
Is the size of my penis all there is to my sexuality? Ultimately, if a man can accept himself
just as it is, he won't have to worry if his penis isn't large, gigantic or too big to fit through
the doorway.
Darlene Mininni, MPH is the Coordinator of the Sexual Health Education Program in the
UCLA Student Health Service. And now you are plugged in to SexTalk. See you soon in
the next column. Thanks for reading. Thien Van
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Additional reading by Dr. Payne on human behavioral issues
3 Primal Drives, Essay
Help for Ailing Relationships
Delusional Beliefs: A Normative Coping Mechanism?
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Note: Dr. Payne has no financial interest in any of the commercial or other
websites listed in this article.
This article is © 2004 by Dr. Anthony G. Payne. All rights reserved. The information
contained in this article is provided for informational purposes only and should not be
construed as medical, sexual or psychological advice or instruction. Readers are advised to
consult the appropriate licensed health care or behavioral sciences professional concerning
physical or mental health concerns or challenges.
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How I learned to stop worrying and love my huge penis
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How I learned to stop worrying and love my huge penis
August 14, 2009 at 1:11 am by Shawn Alff
A book review of How to Live with a Huge Penis
By Dr. Richard Jacob and Rev. Owen Thomas
In a society obsessed with size–with cars as small as soapbox racers and cell phones like matchbooks–it’s no wonder men with oversized male genitalia, or OMG, are still persecuted. But, a new book, How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice, Meditations, and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much, offers hope. It has finally given me the strength to come unzipped about my well endowed penis.
OMGs are such a taboo subject, I didn’t even realize I had one until I measured my erection with the ruler provided on the book’s inside cover. Technically I only have a “well endowed penis,” as opposed to a full blown OMG, but I may have misdiagnosed myself. (Readers are instructed to place the ruler at the base of the penis, possibly adding several inches of undercarriage. As a gentleman, I always measure from the top)
In any case, I had no idea that 5 ½ to 6 ½ inches of stately manhood constituted a well endowed penis. Indeed, this is the book’s main goal: to raise awareness of OMGs. No longer should men be ashamed of the enormous birth defects cradled in their underpants like the muscular arm of a Siamese twin.
Not only did this book save my life, it also resurrected my manhood. Like many men with an OMG, I contemplated penis reduction surgery and even committing suicide by tying my penis around my neck and thinking of vaginas the size of the Hoover Dam. My tormented childhood, the embarrassment of having to wear a construction hard hat as a cup to little league baseball, was a huge factor in my move to Florida–a state that resembles my penis and no longer requires OMGs to be registered with the DMV.
Everyman with an OMG has struggled with the perpetual fear of his penis catching in doors or shaking loose from the shackles of duct tape that keeps it suspended in your shorts. For all you “normal” men, just imagine how difficult it is for someone with an OMG to fly: we’re continually strip searched under suspicion of smuggling missiles, and new regulations require us to purchase an extra seat to accommodate our OMG (After the movie Snakes on a Plane, airlines no longer allow OMGs to be stored in the overhead compartment or under the seat). A man who carries “a huge penis also carries a sack full of painful memories… Accidentally making sexual partners hemorrhage or vomit. Suffering the sweltering days of summer in long pants”(10).
These obstacles led one of the authors, Rev. Owen Thomas, into a life of celibacy and priestly man-dresses. Rev. Thomas met the coauthor, Dr. Richard Jacob, at a hospital after Jacob had beaten his huge penis bloody with a hammer.
Thomas and Jacob confront the bias toward OMGs head on. Grade school gym coaches still condone the ridicule of boys forced to sit on the sidelines of soccer games, because their OMGs can’t be contained by wind shorts and they lacked adequate penis guards. Even at CL, an office full of liberal writers, small penis propaganda abounds like, “my penis is so small it was on China’s female gymnastics team.”
Once and for all the authors overturn the myths that OMGs are contagious, or that men with huge penises have smaller brains. Horse-cock hatred isn’t limited to humans. Elephants are often poached not for their tusks, but for their second trunks, which make excellent sleeping bags. The only point the author’s disagree on is how to deal with small penis elitists. I side with Rev. Thomas, the acclaimed author of the crime novels Megapsycho and Thunderstorm of Blood; he suggests a crowbar.
Another chapter offers tips for unzipping: coming out to friends and family. Readers are advised to clear the room of “kill triggers,” large phallic objects that feed a desire to kill. Never unzip in anger or in a public venue. Move through the opening quickly so your family isn’t disappointed when they discover you’re not coming out about your homosexuality.
This book even delves into the sensitive issue of sex and maintenance. Cumcrete situations and Maury Povich Syndrome can be prevented by squeezing your member like a toothpaste tube and working it with a rolling pin. Every man with an OMG knows that vaginas turn to sandpaper as a natural defense against large penises. Although you may never go “balls deep” like your small penis friends, Harvard’s S.P.I.T (safe penile intercourse techniques) method will help you work the tip in. Advice is also given on preventing rod rash, tip gnawing, and uterine encroachment. Fainting spells from erections, or hallucinations of talking animals due to blood loss from the brain, can be managed by carrying pictures of your grandparents. Potentially fatal nocturnal erections can be prevented by wearing night guards. If you do find a safe harbor for your OMG, the authors suggest giant novelty condoms. I’ve also used Glad Bags with red handle ties, though only with limited success.
While How to Live with a Huge Penis is physically long, it contains a lot of fluff, which is partly due to the gaping hole in OMG research. The scientific community has long denied the “theory” of huge penises as they shake the tenants of evolution. Congress has systematically cut off OMG funding as huge penises are not mentioned in the Bible. The end of the book is largely blank for you to fill with your own advice on managing your OMG. Mine reads like a diary: “Dear Well Endowed Penis, today I bought you tube sock because I know how cold you get in the winter.”
This book doesn’t specifically address French Bread Loaves (long skinny penises) or tuna cans (thick short ones), but it’s inspiring that we’re finally openly discussing penises that aren’t the size of fishing tackle. When friends, and even potential love interests, drop by my apartment, I prominently display one of my copies of How to Live with a Huge Penis on the coffee table. If visitors have any further questions, I’m happy to unzip and drape my OMG over the arm of the couch. Our OMGs are out and proud, never again to be suppressed by tightly wrapped rolls of Ace bandages and baggy pants.
I go one step further than Thomas and Jacob, proposing that OMG supporters wear flesh colored ribbons. A month should be dedicated to OMGs, where students learn about how the theory of relativity was a consequence of Einstein reflecting on his massive penis, and how Mozart’s final opera, “The Magic Flute,” was an attempt to reconcile with his penis.
We must learn to be proud of our trouser cannons. Even though our penises are large enough for us to fellate ourselves, we must stand tall and remember that we are still men.
How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice, Meditations, and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much
How to Live with a Huge Penis: Advice, Meditations, and Wisdom for Men Who Have Too Much
By Richard Jacob, Owen Thomas
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For generations, conventional wisdom stated that you could never sell a book with 'penis' in the title - until Quirk's "Penis Pokey" shattered all of the rules, racking up 100,000 in net sales in just 18 months. In this same tradition comes "How to Live with a Huge Penis" - a gift every man will cherish, regardless of whether or not he actually needs it. Frankly, it's enough for someone to think he needs it. This hilarious self-help parody is full of compassionate advice for men afflicted with Oversized Male Genitalia (OMG).Far too often, these men are banished to the fringes of society, victims of their own freakish length and girth. But Dr. Richard Jacob and Rev. Owen Thomas are here with a message of tolerance and hope, along with hilarious advice on 'coming out' to your family, sharing your assets with a partner, and avoiding injury in the workplace. Complete with a daily affirmations journal and inspiring quotes from leading self-help experts, "How to Live with a Huge Penis" will send an uplifting message to men around the world.
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I this book for real or is it a joke book somebody wrote to make fun of guys big ones.We either get that,disbelief were all liars and only porn stars have big ones or the women prefer the average or small-Opps-screw me for having a big dick.
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* Published on: 2009-03-04
* Original language: English
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* 128 pages
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About the Author
Dr. Richard Jacob holds a PhD in Asian Economic Psychology from East Somerville University, where he was an instructor until 2003. He lives in Sherman, Connecticut, where he runs an e-commerce consulting business out of a spare bedroom in his home. Rev. Owen Thomas is an ordained Catholic priest, counselor, and celebrated crime novel author. His acclaimed series of Frank Stryver thrillers has sold nearly 43,000 copies to date, and one of these novels (Megapsycho) was translated into Korean. He lives in Cambridge, Massachusetts, and Miami Beach.
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This book changed my life.5
For years I struggled with this thing in my pants. I often asked myself if God made it, why did it hurt so many people's wives, sisters, mothers, and girlfriends? It just didn't seem fair. Especially when I supplied enough witty banter and vodka shots to ensure anal was also on the menu. But every time a lady would see it, she'd be like a Mexican nurse who slowly crosses herself and prays as she backs out of the room when a baby with claws for hands is born. However, just as having sex with girls in comas had left me wanting more, I found this book! And it changed my life! No more feeling bad about hearing the muffled cries in the bathroom after sex! No more feeling guilty about those unfortunate stitches! So, thanks "How to Live with a Huge Penis"! Your message of hope has inspired me to share my gift with the world!
Like a community in a book. Thank you.5
Having the girth of a large shampoo bottle is allegedly a blessing... as long as you're not the one with the "gift". Guys think they want one. Women think they want it given to them. However, my psyche is scarred (and confused) from the howls I've heard after I drop trou. Are they scared? Turned on? Is there a monster behind me? No. The monster has always been in my pants. Only now, after reading this wonderful book have I been able to make peace with my piece.
Disappointing
You know, life isn't easy. I have to lug around a 25" penis and, quite bluntly, I need some advice on how to live life. People think my right leg has a weird growth on it. My lower back is always hurting. If I get aroused, my head spins and I pass out. It's a cornucopia of problems and people always laugh when, after being asked what the problem is, you respond with "I have a really massive wang".The only women,who equile to my size is Tina Small or Chelsea Charms.Their breast are way too big and so my dick.
You know, it's not always funny. It's painful.
I thought, maybe, Richard Richard Jacob and Owen Thomas were kindred spirits in my battle against excessive genitalism. But NO --- these two chuckleheads decide to make this whole book a comedy.
Now, admittedly, the humor is pretty funny here and there...but there is real pain here. You ever throw out your shoulder tossing your penis over your shoulder because you had to wear shorts? Does your massive wang cause whirlpools should you ever decide to skinny dip? You know what it's like to not be able to make love to your wife within the same ROOM as your girl?
It's not bloody lovely. That's what it's like.
It even makes work a bother. At every interview, I get asked to first, show my penis and then second, bang the receptionist. You know, I'm not a piece of meat. And all of the queries as to why I'm not doing porn get annoying. I TRIED doing porn once and accidentally smashed the camera when I was fully aroused and turned around too quickly.
...I also gave my leading lady a concussion, broke a window in the next room, and, well, impregnated 3 different women in a 5 block radius. It was a little mortifying.
People always say it's a blessing. Well, I'm not seeing it. When you have to lug around a wang that weighs more than a full grown Great Dane, then you can talk to me.
And, no, I didn't type this using my fingers. I CANNOT do that.
Life is so unfair sometimes.
Small or average guys think right away,just your meats big,you get laid alot.After all people in porn do ?All those people in porn are just well endowed actors.People pay them to screw and most I bet are bi polar sex addicts.And trying to meet a female Size Queen dosen't help.You mess up with them,just as any woman.I met one at Large Penis Support Group.She seemed like me.We sertainly were very freindly,but for whatever reason,my anger problems and depression or her not trusting men,the whole went tits up.I'm still confused Mademe Zora and don't what think about her ?
The point,is a big ones a blessing and pain in the ass at the time.Sure,I like having a big dick.I get off knowing above average in lenth and thickness.
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